Stressfully Speaking

This Moment Called Now

2012-02-05T21:46:00.002-07:00

In the course of everyday stress, it is quite easy to become flooded, if not haunted by thoughts and feelings of the past… or anxiety of what may occur in the future. Becoming lost in the past or future robs us of the present moment; truly a divine time zone. I received an email over the weekend with news that a dear friend had passed away; a fatal heart attack. He died while on a Celtic music themed cruise ship in the Caribbean. Tom was one who loved traditional Celtic music. He lived for it. And he died doing what he loved. Surrounded in the vibrations of Celtic fiddles, penny whistles, guitars, banjos and Uilleann pipes, there was only this moment called now for Tom, and he taught us this in many ways. The news of the loss of a loved one can bring up many emotions, not the least of which includes grief, regret, anger, sorrow and doubt. While all of these emotions are valid, let us not forget to live in the moment. Living in the moment means to enjoy the stimulation of all the senses, whether it be music, food, art, roses or the wisp of wind through your hair. Living in the moment means to be present with your thoughts and feelings as you experience these sensations. Living in the present moment means to live life without regrets. A full heart is a happy heart.

Stress Tip for the Day:

Living in the present moment is the true nature of mindfulness. And living in the present moment includes vanquishing feelings of guilt (past) and fears (future) that rob us of the present moment. When you consider all the wasted time on guilt and worry you begin to realize just how precious the present moment really is. The news of one’s death becomes a time to gain perspective on what is important. So today, take time to be grateful for what you have (starting with the gift of sight, sound, taste, touch and smell). Ask for forgiveness from those you may have hurt, forgive others for their inappropriate actions, tell close friends and family you love them, because you never know when your last moment might be. Enjoy the present moment; truly it is all we really have.

Links, Books and Movies Worth Noting:

Perhaps there is no better way to honor Tom Piggot’s love of Irish music, not to mention his velvet Irish tenor voice, than to share this video of him singing the song, The Parting Glass. Enjoy!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cUZJZDhJagY

Quote for the Day:

Death is nothing at all.

It does not count.

I have only slipped away into the next room

Everything remains as it was.

—Irish Saying (shared by Anne Kearney, thanks Anne)

Photo for the Day:

One of Tom Piggot’s favorite places in Ireland was the Cliffs of Moher. In his honor, I selected this image as a tribute to him. Tom you are beautiful soul and the world will be a lesser place without you. Thanks for your great love of Irish music, Irish people, the beauty of the Emerald Isle and your passion to share this with all you encountered along the “enchanted way.” Safe home, my friend!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (7e) and the forthcoming, A Beautiful World: The Earth Song Journals. He can be reached through his website: www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Entrainment: What Everyone Should Know

2012-02-02T10:11:00.002-07:00

When two fireflies land on the same branch, they begin to flash their lights in unison, like lit bulbs on a Christmas tree. Birds of a feather often fly in unison (entrainment). It’s a well-known fact that (some) women who live together or work together begin to have their menstrual period on or about the same time. The science behind the physiology is called “entrainment” and it comes to us from the field of physics. When two objects of like vibration are in close proximity, the object of lesser (weaker) vibration will begin to match the object of stronger vibration. Noted scientist Christiaan Huygens discovered this with pendulum clocks centuries ago. It’s now a law of physics Entrainment is best described as the conservation of energy. We learn from the field of quantum physics that everything is comprised of energy. Our bodies (not just the physical, but mental, emotional and spiritual bodies) entrain to various vibrations in our surroundings, from high-tension power lines (known to promote cancer) to cell phones (also associated with cancer) to music. Cancer cells vibrate at a different oscillation than healthy cells. Understanding a little more about entrainment is advantageous to your health. And…by understanding the concept of entrainment, you begin to have a better appreciation for the concepts of harmony and coherence, not just poetic concepts, but ideals in which to live your life. Stated simply, stress is the opposite of harmony!

Stress Tip for the Day:

Have you ever heard the expression; the tension was so think you could cut it with a knife? What you are sensing is the vibration of stress. Today become more aware of your surroundings by taking time to sense the energy, including your workspace, people (and their emotions), even food (does it contain a healthy vibration? Hint: processed foods have little if any healthy vibrations.) Music is a great way to entrain the mind into a state of relaxation, but the best music is instrumental and the best instrumental music for relaxation is that which is a bit slower (which is why classical music works). At the end of the day, turn off the TV and computer and put on some headphones and entrain to some soothing vibrations….of tranquility.

Links, Books and Movies Worth Noting:

Perhaps the best book to add to your library about this topic is the landmark book by Robert Becker called Cross Currents. To this we could add the classic book, Vibrational Medicine by Richard Gerber.

Below is a link of a video shot near the river Shannon in Ireland of some starlings flying in a cloud... Entrainment from our feathered friends....enjoy!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CEgSlRarcC8&feature=colike

Quote for the Day:

“When the universe is in harmony with man, the eternal truth is known and felt as beauty.” —Tagore

“Gracefulness has been defined to be the outward expression of the inward harmony of the soul.” — William Hazlitt

Photo for the Day:

Well, I don’t have any photos of fireflies, but if you ever saw the movie Winged Migration then you know that birds (even fish for that mater) use the law of entrainment. Here is a photo of some birds in flight… And by the way, Happy Groundhog’s Day.

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Stress ... and Allergies

2012-01-29T22:35:00.005-07:00

I read several years ago of a study done at Harvard. The purpose of the study was to determine if stress had any affect on allergies. Turns out it does, quite significantly. The more stressed you are, the greater your reaction to allergens. When people who showed an allergic response to a host of things (e.g., cats, pollen, dust, etc.) were taught various relaxation methods, including meditation, and then exposed to the same allergens, there was no (or very little) allergic response. It was concluded that the stress hormones greatly aggravate the body’s allergic response. The take home message is that relaxation techniques are essential to maintain a sense of homeostasis. On a similar note, I read with great interest today of a recent study reported that exposure to plastic compounds (known as PFC’s), found in Teflon coatings, fast food containers, microwave popcorn bags, even stain resistant carpeting,, etc., have a negative impact on kid’s immune systems, particularly the effects of vaccinations. YIKES! The conclusions of this new study suggest sthat these chemicals may be weakening the entire immune system; most likely not just in children, but in everyone.

Stress Tip for the Day:

Take time each day to sit quietly and relax. Listen to soft instrumental music. Close your eyes and focus on your breathing. Sit still for 5- 10 minutes each morning and clear your head. Release your fears, anxieties and frustrations with each breath. As you do this, you will see that you have an inner strength that will guide you through the day. Additionally, make a habit to remove as much plastic in your life as possible, from the way you prepare your food to the toilet seats and clothes you wear (opt for cotton and wool over synthetic polymers made from petroleum products). Honor your immune system today!

Links, Books and Movies Worth Noting:

Last year I picked up a book called Plastic: A Toxic Love Story. I HIGHLY recommend reading this book to become more educated about the dangers of repeated exposure to these petroleum products so prevalent in our lives.

Here are some links for more information about stress and allergies:

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2008/08/080814154327.htm

http://www.everydayhealth.com/allergies/can-stress-worsen-allergies.aspx

Quote for the Day:

“The difference between an itch and an allergy is about one hundred dollars.” —Anonymous

Photo for the Day:

I took this photo for my college textbook section on pet therapy. Many people are allergic to cats (it appears to be something in the cat’s saliva which is found on the cat’s coat when they wash themselves… Be sure to wash your hands before you touch your face. Equally important, be sure to meditate, if you are allergic to cats...and see what happens.

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Stress… and the Other Nutrients

2012-01-23T09:18:00.001-07:00

Having taught nutrition for over a decade at the University of Colorado, the first lecture always included a brief review of the six nutrients: carbohydrates, fats, proteins, vitamins, minerals, and water. Yet it would be a gross injustice to only list these. There are several more. They include, but are not limited to: Sunlight, oxygen, prana and love. It’s not secret that the average person doesn’t get enough sunlight, a fact that came to light when it was reported last year that many Americans today are deficient in Vitamin D; the sunshine vitamin. While it is safe to say that many people do get their supply of oxygen, we can also safely assume that a great man people are not in touch with their breathing skills (Sting is often quoted as saying that most people in the Western culture do not know how to breath correctly, and he is right). Prana, a name associated with divine energy, is also an essential nutrient, yet one that most people take for granted. Becoming conscious of this divine energy facilitates a great ability to reach our highest potential. A stressed lifestyle not only tends to compromise our eating habits, but our ability to get outside and enjoy the natural world, one that is filled with sunlight, oxygen and prana. And it goes without saying that without love, we cannot live at all.

Stress Tip for the Day:

Make it a habit to get outside today and go for a walk. Drink in the sunlight as you walk. Feel the gentle caress of wind on your face and breath it in, deep into your lungs. As you breath in this fresh air, recognize that you are also breathing in the life force of universal energy (some people call it prana, still others call it Chi, and still others call it the Holy Spirit). Make it a habit to get your daily requirement of these essential nutrients as well as the obvious ones that you consume at each meal. And regarding love, this nutrient can only be absorbed with an open heart.

Links, Books and Movies Worth Noting:

Here is a nice article about the sunshine vitamin:

http://www.guardian.co.uk/science/2009/feb/08/vitamin-d-sun-health

Quote for the Day:

“Live in the sunshine, swim in the sea, drink in the wild air.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

Photo for the Day:

This photo was taken a few years ago during a sunset on the island of Santorini, Greece, where there is plenty of sunshine, oxygen and prana. Enjoy!

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Monkey Mind No More

2012-01-19T07:32:00.004-07:00

In the eastern culture there is an expression called “monkey mind.” It means that your mind is distracted; racing around all over the place, just like monkey that never sits still. A racing mind that ricochets all over the place is a dangerous mind, because it cannot focus on any one thing long enough concentrate, make important decisions, or have a deep conversation with someone. We don’t have monkeys in the United States, yet we do have squirrels, and they too race all over the place. Same concept! It’s no secret that with all the distractions of modern technology, from smart phones and Ipads to video games and text messaging, humans have a serious epidemic of monkey mind, or squirrel mind (take your pick). It’s actually the ego that steers the mind’s attention in a million different directions, and while some people call this “multi-tasking” with pride, the research is clear: mutli-tasking; the art of doing more than one thing at a time and doing them well, is a myth. Monkey mind no more!

Stress Tip for the Day:

Renouncing the world, moving to a monastery or becoming Amish isn’t an option for most people these days, but there is a proven way to rid yourself of monkey mind. It’s called meditation. In the eastern culture there is an expression that states we need to“ domesticate the ego” (this is code for ridding yourself of monkey mind). If you don’t already have a meditation practice, now is the time to begin. To begin, find a quite space in your home or office and sit quietly for 5-10 minutes. Close your eyes and focus solely on your breathing. Whatever thoughts come to mind, simply acknowledge them and then let them go as you exhale. Make a habit of doing this every day. One more thing that helps with taming monkey mind is keeping healthy boundaries with your technology. Let it serve you, rather than becoming a slave to it, in all it’s many forms. As an example, turn your cell phone off (including the vibration mode) from 9-11 am every day, so you can focus on what you need to do all day without the flood of distractions.

Links, Books and Movies Worth Noting:

For more info on monkey mind, consider checking out these links:

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/meditation-modern-life/201110/quieting-the-monkey-mind-meditation

http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Three_Secrets_to_Stop_Monkey_Mind.html

http://dailyheal.com/meditation-news/train-your-monkey-mind-with-mindfulness-meditation/

Quote for the Day:

“I am burdened with what the Buddhists call the monkey mind. The thoughts that swing from limb to limb, stopping only to scratch themselves, spit and howl. My mind swings wildly through time, touching on dozens of ideas a minute, unharnessed and undisciplined. You are, after all, what you think. Your emotions are the slaves to your thoughts, and you are the slave to your emotions.” — Liz Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love

Photo for the Day:

While in Rio de Janeiro a few years ago, I was able to take a day trip to Sugarloaf Mountain, where I saw these monkeys, and while they may looked relaxed in this photo, believe me, they certainly had monkey mind.

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Make Your Dent in the Universe

2012-01-15T12:49:00.003-07:00

Steve Jobs, founder of the Apple computer, was driven by a life purpose: to make a visible “dent” in the universe. I think everyone would agree that indeed he did, from the Ipod, to Pixar cartoon films. Like Steve Jobs, we too have a meaningful purpose in life, though each purpose will make a different impression in our world, if not the universe. Noted author, Viktor Frankl (Man’s Search for Meaning) was of the opinion that stress arises when we are not fulfilling our life purpose. Categorically, each of our purposes in life involves bringing more light into the darkness of mere being (thanks, Carl Jung). Joseph Campbell offered this advice to fulfilling your life’s purpose: Follow your bliss. Steve Job’s advice was similar: follow your own path, be different; don't live up to someone else's expectations. Conforming to other's likes and beliefs makes for a very boring, if not very dark, world. It also makes for more stressful life. Being authentically true to yourself is the only way you will ever change the world for the better. The Universe is begging for your “dent.” What are you waiting for?

Stress Tip for the Day:

Each of us has not one, but many purposes in life. For some it’s raising a family. For others it’s discovering the vaccine to save lives. Still for others it’s bringing a smile to thousands of faces or inspiring the hearts of many. Apathy and laziness will sabotage our life purpose. Stress finds it’s way into our hearts when one purpose is complete and the next has yet to form. What is your purpose in life? (here’s is a hint: it’s not to make lots of money). What is your dent in the universe? Get out there and start pounding away. Begin with a smile. If you are in a quandary about what to start pounding, start doing some soul searching, and listen for the answer. Then... follow your bliss.

Links, Books and Movies Worth Noting:

If you have not read Frankl’s book, Man’s Search for Meaning, it is a must read. And if you have read it, you might want to consider reading it again. I would also highly recommending Steve Job’s biography, Steve Jobs. It’s very inspiring, and might just help you make your dent in the universe.

Quote for the Day:

“Here’s to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes… the ones who see things differently — they’re not fond of rules… You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can’t do is ignore them because they change things… they push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do. – Think Different” — Steve Jobs

Photo for the Day:

Today’s photo is a Hawaiian sunrise image… a reminder to bring more light into the world, for no matter what you do, ultimately this is all of our life purposes.

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Smile!

2012-01-08T21:55:00.005-07:00

It is hard to image anyone going through an entire day without smiling (or laughing for that matter), but it happens—A LOT. Results from the field of psychoneuroimmunology remind us that our thoughts can greatly impact our health, but this pathway is a two-way street. We are also reminded that our physiology can impact our thoughts and feelings as well. This was the whole message of Charlie Chaplin’s famous song (often sung by Nat King Cole… see lyrics below) called Smile. By inviting the body to adopt a happy position, brain neurochemistry begins to change—for the better. It’s that simple. A smile is a universal symbol of happiness. A smile is the currency of the heart. As the expression goes, happiness is just a thought away! Can the simple act of smiling make you happy? The answer appears to be yes (check out the link below from Scientific American). Smiling is the art of happiness, and we can all use more of this. And smiling is contagious. Pass it on.

Stress Tip for the Day:

In the book, Eat Pray Love, the author, Liz Gilbert was recommend to sit in meditation and contemplate the premise of happiness. Her Balinese mentor told her to meditate on happiness by smiling. “Just sit there and smile,” he said. Good advice. In doing so, you begin to reflect on all that is going right with your life. Gratitude abounds. In doing so, you tame the voice of the ego that broadcasts its negativity, so you can hear the voice, the melody of happiness and bliss. The next time you meditate (and you can start today), close your eyes, focus on your breathing and contemplate bliss: Think it, feel it, be it.... Also take it outside, as the expression goes.... consider smiling when meeting others, particularly at the grocery store checkout stand (lots of stress in the way of boredom there).

Links, Books and Movies Worth Noting:

A few years ago, I was asked to write a chapter for a book called Smile, by Elan Sun Star, a world renowned photographer based in Hawaii. If you can get your hands on this book, I highly recommend it. Not only are there some great essays, but there are some incredible photographs as well.

Here are a few links to more ideas about smiling:

http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/the-art-of-smiling/

http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=smile-it-could-make-you-happier

Quote for the Day:

These are the lyrics to Chaplin’s now famous song, Smile:

Smile

though' your heart is aching,

Smile

Even though it's breaking,

When there are clouds in the sky- You'll get by,

If you smile through your fear and sorrow,

Smile and maybe tomorrow

You'll see the sun come shining through- for you.

Light up your face with gladness,

Hide every trace of sadness,

Although' a tear may be ever so near,

That's the time you must keep on trying,

Smile- what's the use of crying?

You'll find that life is still worthwhile,

If you just smile.

Photo for the Day:

In culling through many photo ideas for this theme today, I cropped this one to fit… If you happen to know who this smile belongs to, let me know. There might be a small prize.... void where prohibited.

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Give Your Immune System a Boost Today!

2012-01-05T07:58:00.003-07:00

If you have seen the movie, Contagion, then you know how easily germs can spread. And… if you heard the news last week that scientists have manipulated a version of the bird flu virus into a deadly contagion, then it would be wise to do all you can to boost the strength of your immune system (just in case of nefarious minds). CDC data reveals that the average person touches their hands to their face hundreds of times a day, making an easy entrance for germs and pathogens into the body. In the movie Contagion, not everyone caught the deadly flu. Some people were immune (we can only conclude they had a STRONG immune system). In terms of nature vs. nurture, there are several things we can do about the integrity of our immune systems, both in terms of the internal environment of our bodies and our health behaviors. It’s no secret that stress can definitely suppress the immune system (through the action of Cortisol). So can poor quality sleep… and poor eating habits, specifically a diet high in refined sugar. It’s time to come to our defense system’s defenses!

Stress Management Tip for the Day:

Make a habit to wash your hands frequently. Particularly before eating (anything). Enjoy sweets, but very few. Opt for fresh fruits, veggies and nuts every day when possible. Taking time each day to sit quietly and focus on your breathing (also known as meditation) is always a good idea and a good night’ sleep, well, you can begin with detaching form computer screens hours before you got to bed, as the artificial light will impact melatonin production (without that at appropriate levels, a good night’s sleep won’t happen). Oh, and did I mention to wash your hands often?

Links, Books and Movies Worth Noting:

If you haven’t seen the movie, Contagion, I highly recommend it. It’s a good lesson in the spread of germs. I guarantee you will wash your hands after leaving the theater.

Quote for the Day:

“Eat one meal each day for your immune system.” —Brian Luke Seaward

Photo of the Day:

Looking through my photos (early this am), I found this image of a white cloud (at sunset) and thought of a white blood cell…Enjoy the symbolism…and don't forget to wash your hands regularly!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (7E) and his forthcoming book, A Beautiful World; The Earth Songs Journals. He can be reached through his website: www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Financial Wellness

2012-01-02T19:10:00.006-07:00

The start of a new year is a perfect time to start refining some personal habits, including our spending habits. The news reports of the past week, which reflected on the past year, had a common theme: last year was a financial mess. 2012 doesn’t look much better, particularly if problems with the Euro are left unresolved. Since the start of what has become known as the “Great recession” people have had to take a hard look at their finances, but experts suggest that our careless ways are creeping back. Time after time, stress questionnaires reveal that money problems rank at the top of people’s stressors. Financial wellness is comprised of many things, not the least of which is will power. Pulling in the reins of our spending, seeing each purchase as an investment (regardless of the cost). It is still recommended to move your money out of the corporate banks and into a local credit union, and this should be at the top of your list of things to do for financial wellness.

Stress Tip for the Day:

It’s easy to go over budget when you don’t keep track of what you spend. Debit cards and credit cards may be great for emergencies, but consider using cash (or checks where they are still taken). Many people buy things only to find out that when they get home, they already have the item purchased. Take time to clean your house, taken mental inventory of your possessions. Take a look at your leisure habits and start to see what you can do that is free; spend more time in nature. As they saying goes, the best things in life are free. Be mindful of what you spend (without becoming stressed about it).

Links, Books and Movies Worth Noting:

Michelle Singletary is the financial reporter for the Washington Post. Here is a link which may be of interest for some good financial advice:

http://www.oprah.com/money/Michelle-Singletarys-Short-and-Long-Term-Money-Advice_1

Quote for the Day:

“The best way to double your money is the fold it in half and put it back in your wallet.” Anonymous

Photo for the Day:

Sunrise or sunset? You decide. This photo was taken in Florida last year. It seemed like an appropriate photo for this, the first photo for the 2012 blog. New Beginnings! Enjoy!

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Relax in the Celtic Tradition: Spirit of Ireland Journey 2012

2011-12-03T14:59:00.004-07:00

You are invited: Come join us, for what might just be, the last Spirit of Ireland Journey next year (June 14-24, 2012)...

Ireland is a country rich in culture, history and music, yet there is a mystical essence that cannot be described in words. It must be felt in the heart through the landscape, the music, the stories and the Celtic earth itself. It is this essence that we will capture on the Spirit of Ireland Journey. Not just a simple vacation to a pretty place, the theme of this journey is one of healing; healing the energetic ley lines (meridian points at various Celtic sacred sites, known as “faerie lines” in Ireland); helping to restore the healing energies of these sacred sites and offering compassion in action through daily meditations and reflections. We will also enjoy the beauty of the Irish culture and the spirit of Celtic traditions found in the music—LOTS of great music! The northwest region of Ireland is renowned the world over for its stunning beauty and Celtic charm. People often say that traveling to Ireland is like stepping back in time to a land steeped in rich culture, history and spirituality; a less rushed lifestyle in a magical setting, where people meet you with a smile and a twinkle in their eye. Everyone who has traveled with us on previous excursions describes this trip as a life-changing event in their lives; the memories and friendships forged will last a lifetime.

Below is a link to a pdf brochure for next year's trip (County Donegal, County Mayo and County Galway). A great mix of sacred sites, castles, awesome traditional music and a magical charm only the Irish can pull off so well. We have room for 22 people and would love to have you join us. So…start packing your bags...

Stress Tip for the Day:

Travel can be quite stressful, but it’s nearly non-existent traveling in a small group of like minded people. On this tour, I offer morning meditations and we also do some quiet meditation time at many of the sacred sites, including the Stone Circle in Beltony. Music therapy is another form of relaxation and the Irish are the masters of Great Celtic music; one of the highlights of the trip.

Links, Books and Movies Worth Noting:

This first link will take you to the Trips to Ireland page with all kinds of good stuff to view

http://www.brianlukeseaward.net/tripstoireland.html

This next link is a direct link to the 2012 Brochure PDF

http://brianlukeseaward.net/2012_spirit_of_ireland_journey.pdf

Quote for the Day:

May the road rise to meet you,

May the wind be always at your back,

May the sun shine warm upon your face,

The rains fall soft upon your fields and,

Until we meet again,

May God hold you in the palm of His hand.

—Old Irish saying

Photo for the Day:

Ireland has many beautiful castles, including the Ashford Castle in the town of Cong. Many of the scenes from the the John Wayne and Maureen O'Hara movie were filmed here on these grounds. We will make a stop in Cong while in County Mayo.

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Happy Holidays! See You Next Year!

2011-12-03T12:26:00.004-07:00

In the spirit of healthy boundaries, this blog will be on holiday until January 6^th, 2012. We look forward to returning at that time with lots of great blog themes, information and tips for optimal living. Please feel free to visit past blog entries in the archives of Stressfully Speaking during the next few weeks.

Keep smiling, pace yourself, hold fast to your own healthy boundaries and here is wishing you well throughout this season.

Best wishes and Inner Peace,

Brian Luke Seaward

The Physics of Stress?

2011-11-28T07:19:00.003-07:00

The word, “stress” comes to us from the field of physics. Coined over 100 years ago, it means enough force to bend or break an object. Apparently the word stuck. If you have ever felt stressed, then you know exactly what this word means. Stress is often described as a “perceived threat” and once you introduce the word “perceived,” you invoke the mind’s thought processes. For eons (and still to this day) the abstract concept of the mind is often compared to more tangible things. Hence words like stress from other disciplines, like physics, are often used to help make the abstract tangible.

Over the years, we have borrowed a few more terms from the field of physics, including the ideas of resonant thinking, dissonance, coherence and even the term entrainment. Over the past several decades, research into the mind has once again knocked on the door of physics, particularly quantum physics, to gain a better foothold of understanding about what stress is (negative energy). In the quest to understand the concept of energy, specifically healing energy, thoughts are recognized (by some) as energy. The HeartMath Institute has conducted several studies that look into the energy produced by both the head and the heart. When the two areas are in harmony with their energies, it is described as coherence. Simply stated, stress is the opposite of coherence.

Stress Tip for the Day:

How is your heart today? Can you feel its rhythms, not just it’s beat, but the frequencies of love and compassion? Or does fear closed the door to your heart? How is your head today? In addition to eavesdropping on the thoughts of your mind, can you feel the rhythms that your head is sending out? While we may not always feel our own mental rhythms, we can often feel others (as in, “the tension was so think you could cut it with a knife”). Today’s stress tip invites you to learn to become aware of the rhythms of both your head AND heart. Learn to discern if these rhythms are in synch (also known as harmony, or if there is a dissonance (negative vibrations). Anything less than a perfect harmony is detrimental to mind, body and spirit. To bring the heart and mind in synch begin by focusing on your breath.

Links, Books and Movies Worth Noting:

Here are a couple of links to HeartMath….enjoy

http://www.spiritofmaat.com/archive/nov1/hmath.htm

http://www.heartmath.org/

Even if you have seen the movie, What the BLEEP Do We Know, it’s always great to come back and preview it again. The scenes where the character realizes that her thoughts are amplified via water is perhaps one of the most important messages of the movie.

Quote for the Day:

“ Love is a vibration that ripples out over the waters of the universe.” —Anonymous.

Photo for the Day:

Anette and Christian (my friends from Copenhagen) came to visit this summer. Pictured here is Anette, posing for this photo in Rocky Mountain National Park. Thanks Anette. Takk!

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Much to Be Thankful For…

2011-11-23T11:47:00.003-07:00

In the season of Thanksgiving, gratitude is a gift of conscious recognition that we have many blessings in our lives. Enjoy the day and be sure to tell those people in your life how much you appreciate them.

Stress Tip for the Day:

Spend some time in solitude on Thanksgiving Day and make a long list of those things you are grateful for. Don't stop until you reach 500 things.

Links, Books and Movies worth Noting:

Research now shows that giving thanks and appreciation is good for your health.

Check out this link:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-2064543/Computerised-contact-lens-date-news-texts.html

and if you have the slightest bit of pity for how you life is going, please watch this video clip

http://www.youtube.com/watch_popup?v=aw-nt0eTb2w

Quote for the Day:

“As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.” John F. Kennedy

Photo for the Day:

The classic Norman Rockwell image of a Thanksgiving celebration. Enjoy! (By the way, one day while flying out of Bradly International Airport in Hartford, CT this year, I met a man who, several decades ago, modeled for Norman Rockwell in one of his now famous illustrations. This man even pulled out a copy of the illustration to show me. Needless to say, as a fan of Rockwell's artwork, I was very grateful to have that 1 degree of separation... very cool.)

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Stress and Death: A Good Day to Die?

2011-11-22T09:52:00.005-07:00

I had the chance to sit down with my Godmother a few weeks ago while in New England (my parents died several decades ago) and it wasn’t long before the subject of death came up (My Godmother tuned 85 last week). “Do you have a will,” she asked? It turns out, I do, but she confided in me that even her own two daughters don’t. They are not alone. The vast majority of Americans don’t, leaving the potential heirs and caregivers, but more likely the probate courts, to untangle the mess. The end result leaves everybody unhappy, angry and more stressed. Americans have a very sanitized exposure to death. Think about it! Death, they feel is very stressful, so they avoid nearly all aspects of it, particularly estate planning, wills and trusts. Avoidance, as we all know, can come back to bit us in the but. Ouch! While we cannot all have a graceful exit from this earthly existence, we can help give some peace of mind to our loved ones right after we depart by taking care of some details and putting our affairs in order. Start with a will/trust and living will (end of life care). Make everyday a good day to die by making everyday a good day to live.

Stress Tip for the Day:

Make a strategy this week to find a good estate/ trust lawyer and get things down on paper—legally. Often the cost is minimal (around $200). If you don’t do this, much of what you own may never get to the people you intended,instead, going to the state in which you live. If you have a will, be sure that those closest to you know where it is or have an extra copy. How does the expression go: Death comes like a thief in the night? Be sure to include information about end of life care (do you want to be on life support for years or die naturally?) Finally, as hard as it may be, bring these issues up with your loved ones (and the holidays might be the best time, if nothing else, it will certainly get everyone's attention). Don't be afraid of death, Stare it in the face (with a lawyer) and come out smiling...

Links, Books and Movies worth Noting:

There are many online services for last wills and trusts. Check them out thoroughly… seek the advice of people in the know. Not all states validate online wills, so do your homework.

http://www.alllaw.com/forms/wills_and_trusts

http://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/wills-trusts-estates

Quote for the Day:

“When you were born, you cried and the world rejoiced. Live your life so that when you die, the world cries and you rejoice.” — Anonymous

Photo for the Day:

My Godmother, Pat O’Connor, who at age 85 is one of the most wonderful people I know. Very loving, great sense of humor and a beautiful soul. Thanks, Pat!

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Of Character, Integrity and Stress

2011-11-17T07:24:00.003-07:00

Like so many people, I was aghast at the news out of Penn State last week. The whole ugly travesty is a classic case study in stress and character (how NOT to act in the face of stress!) How can anyone think they can protect a reputation by sacrificing integrity is inconceivable (isn’t integrity the foundation of one’s reputation?), yet it seems to happen all too often. Ungrounded, stress (anger, fear or more likely both) will certainly cloud one’s thinking, distort one’s level of rational thinking, and ultimately hijack one character. In the face of stressful events, we always have a choice; the path of the coward, or the path of the hero. The path of the hero is not an easy one, the path of the coward is easy (but ultimately, no less stressful). Character, it is said, is how you act, when no one else is around. Integrity is an inner resource that we all have, the question is, do we exercise it? By not doing so, it atrophies. The triumph of the human spirit only rises when integrity is the foundation of one’s character.

Stress Tip for the Day:

Exercise your muscle of integrity today. Do some soul searching today to shed light on any behaviors that need recalibrating, out of fear-based thinking redirected toward acts of compassion. Make it habit to find your voice and speak out against injustice, if nothing more, than by example. Let your actions speak to the integrity of your character. As Gandhi once said, “My life is my message.” Be a good message!

Links, Movies and Books worth Noting:

If you haven't seen the documentary, Inside Job, please rent it. It will not only explain the whole financial mess, but it too, is a case study of lack of integrity (and sadly, these people are still walking the streets.)

Quote for the Day:

“The best index to a person's character is (a) how he treats people who can't do him any good, and (b) how he treats people who can't fight back.” — Dear Abby (Abigail Van Burren)

Photo for the Day:

There is much ugliness in the world today, yet there is much beauty as well. The search for and pleasure of beauty isn’t a denial of the ugliness, it merely helps keep it in perspective. I took this photo while flying over the Italian Alps on my way to Tuscany this fall. Enjoy!

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Try On Some Rose Colored Glasses Today

2011-11-13T19:35:00.003-07:00

When the Pollyanna character was introduced into the American Culture, she was THE personification of optimism during the Great Depression. With a little sophistication and perhaps cynicism of the 60’s, the name “Pollyanna” became synonymous with the expressions “out of touch with reality” and “denial.” The metaphor of rose-colored glasses, however, isn’t a denial of reality. Rather, it is a desire to see the good in a bad situation...and move on. In a time of the “Entitlement Generation” (which includes practically all Americans), the norm has become to bitch, moan and whine about everything, thus claiming victimization—garnering sympathy (more likely apathy) from others. So where is Pollyanna in all of this? Great question!

Today as the great recession continues, it’s time to put on the rose-colored glasses. Focusing on the negativity only draws more negativity to you. As the expression goes, “what you think about expands.” When you hear people bitching what you are really hearing is grieving. And while grieving is normal, and even healthy a times, prolonged grieving is not normal and it is certainly not healthy. Research shows that people who are pessimistic about life have a suppressed immune system, whereas those who practice optimism have a healthy immune system. Rose-colored glasses are a metaphor for optimism, something which appears in short supply today, but very much needed.

Stress Tip for the Day:

If you wear rose-colored glasses, keep em on. But if you regularly see the glass as half empty (I am mixing metaphors here, but stay with the concept) it’s time to change your eyeglass prescription, and eyeglasses. Today, please make an effort to look for the good in things as well as people. Rather than playing the devil's advocate, today play the “angel’s advocate.” Look for the good it everything. Once you find the good in something or someone (and there is always good in everything, every situation and everyone) send love from your heart as an expression of gratitude.

Links, Books and Movies Worth Noting:

Martin Seligman has created a branch of modern psychology called Positive Psychology. Here is a link based on his book, Learned Optimism.

http://www.shearonforschools.com/learned_optimism.htm

Quote for the Day:

“Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement; nothing can be done without hope.” — Helen Keller

“Optimist: Someone who figures that taking a step backward after taking a step forward is not a disaster, it's a cha-cha.” —Robert Brault

Photo for the Day:

While I normally like to use my own photographs, I found this (free) image on the Internet and just new it was perfect for this blog entry. Enjoy!

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Friday Morning Humor Therapy

2011-11-11T10:51:00.005-07:00

Once again we will skip the theory and move to the application... have a great day and a stress-free weekend.

JOKE: A Wall Street executive was fed up with his job and the lack of integrity with his company, so he sold off all of his belongings and decided to join a monastery. During his interview he was told it was a “silent order” and could only speak one sentence at the end of each year during his meeting with the Monsignor. When he agreed, he was admitted to the order of the silent monk.

From the first day he was the model monk, saying the most prayers, singing the Gregorian chants beautiful like Frank Sinatra and earning the most money for the Abby with his jams and jellies. At the end of his first year, the Monsignor called him in his office and said, “Monk John, you have one sentence to say, what is it?”

Monk John said, “The beds are lumpy.” Then went back to the chapel to say more prayers.

The next year, Monk John was equally pious and again was the model monk. At the end of the second year, the Monsignor called him into his office and and said, Brother John, you have one sentence to say what is it?”

“The food is lousy,” Monk John replied. He then left the Monsignor’s office and practiced his Gregorian chants.

At the end of the third year, again he was called into the Monsignor’s office for his yearly review.

“Monk John,” the monsignor said, “you are a model monk in the silent order, what do you have to say for yourself.”

“I quit,” said Monk John, to which the Monsignor said,

“Quite frankly it doesn’t surprise me, you have done nothing but complain since you’ve been here.”

Stress Tip for the Day: The word humor means fluid or moisture. Humor is a metaphor for going with the flow, particularly with things we cannot control. As we approach the holiday season, remember to take yourself lightly, and try to find the humor in all things. It’s there, you just have to remind yourself to laugh.

• Links/Books Worth Noting:

If you haven’t seen this link of Laurel & Hardy dancing to Santana’s Oy Comma Va, you should… it will surely bring a smile to your face. Enjoy!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jkZGg0qNdCc&noredirect=1

• Quote for the Day:

“Did you ever wonder why hemorrhoids are called hemorrhoids and not asteroids?” —George Carlin

• Photo of the Day:

Speaking of Wall Street, in honor of those trying to wake up America to the corruption of corporate America, today’s photo was passed along to me as an email and was just to precious not to share. While I surely support the 99% (of which I am a part), we all have to learn to take ourselves lightly.

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (7E) and the forthcoming, A Beautiful World: The Earth Songs Journals. He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

The Art of Solitude

2011-11-03T07:47:00.002-06:00

It was with amazement that I sat at an airport restaurant a few weeks ago and overheard an hour-long conversation in which the man sitting next to me gave a play-byplay overview of a baseball game on television. My first thought was he was chatting with a close friend. My second thought was that he was afraid of being alone. It has been noted that living in this high tech age that we are, it is seldom that we are ever alone. Whether it be texting, talking on the phone, posting (and reading) Facebook blurbs, or Skyping someone, technology has created a way to always be connected, every waking minute. While this may sound good, it has deprived us of the opportunity for quality alone time, Solitude; time to sit and contemplate our thoughts (and feelings) unencumbered by interruptions. The question begs to be asked, at what point does all this “connection” become a distraction? The fear of loneliness (directly tied to the fear of abandonment) is a very real fear. Yet the answer to loneliness isn’t necessarily constant companionship, real or virtual. The answer is learning to become comfortable with yourself at all times, alone and in the company of family and friends. Moments of solitude are a basic human right.

Stress Tip for the Day:

A common theme in holistic stress management is the concept of healthy boundaries; appropriate behavior. Take some time to review your relationship with technology. Are you a serial Facebook updater? Have your thumb muscles grown in size from all that texting? Do you leave your blue-tooth headset on even when you are not talking on the cell phone? Do you know how to be alone, without interruption (digital or otherwise) and feel comfortable with being alone? Consider taking a digital fast and spend some quality time getting to know you (your thoughts, feelings, attitudes and beliefs) and see if there needs to be any fine-tuning in this self-relationship. Discover and cultivate the lost art of solitude!

Links, Books and Movies Worth Noting:

The best book I have seen on solitude is by Anthony Storr, called Solitude; A Return to Self. I highly recommend it.

Quote for the Day:

“Be able to be alone. Lose not the advantage of solitude, and the society of thyself.” — Thomas Browne

Photo of the Day:

While in Hawaii recently I had the chance to see some stunning sunsets. In trying to find the best vantage point I was careful not to disturb others who had staked out their spot of solitude. Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart, Managing Stress (7E) and his forthcoming book, A Beautiful World; The Earth Songs Journals. He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

Going With the Flow!

2011-10-31T15:41:00.003-06:00

I had the pleasure to witness first hand the October Blizzard that hit New England over the past weekend (It’s times like these that we are all reminded that there are some things we have absolutely no control over, yet we do have control over our thoughts). Power outages and downed trees over power lines were as common as snow plows trying to clear the roads. My workshop at Kriplau was affected (minimally) by the loss of power, but not as bad as the Hartford area where I was to fly out of on Monday. Downed power lines gave great discomfort to tens of thousands of people in the region, including those travelers at the hotel where I was staying (I nicked named it the Bates Hotel, and refused to take a shower in the dark…smile). Lots of worry. Lots of Anger. Moments like these can bring out the worst in people. I know because I saw it. Road rage at intersections that had no working traffic lights, indignant people demanding gasoline at stations that had gas but no power (it takes power to pump the gas), and episodes of rudeness that don’t bare repeating. It times like these we can only go with the flow. You can fight it, but it becomes a futile effort. You also look stupid.

Stress Management Tip for the Day:

You will not be able to control everything in your life, but you can control your thoughts. So take time this week to practice this behavior. Think before you speak. In fact, consider refraining from speaking at all when things don’t go your way. Be thankful for what you do have, rather than what you don’t. Think before you act. Always think before you act! Consider thinking of others before you act. Count to ten when you get angry. If that doesn’t work, count to 100. Remember the world doesn’t revolve around you, particularly in times of natural disasters and inconveniences. And while you can be assertive, remember there is a fine line between being assertive and being aggressive. Also remember that the first three letters of the word assertive is what people will think of you (correctly) if you demonstrate behavior like what I saw last weekend.

Links, Books and Movies Worth Noting:

Two books come to mind for today’s blog, the first is The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz (Rule # 2, don’t take things personally!) and one of my favorite books of all time, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water (I cannot remember the author, but it’s a great self-help book).

Quote for the Day:

“In matters of style, swim with the current; in matters of principle, stand like a rock.” — Thomas Jefferson

Photo of the Day:

While waiting at Chicago’s O’Hare for the second leg of my flight home from Hartford to Denver, a customer representative walked and took her position at the ticket counter, dressed up as Dorothy for Halloween (by the way I saw United employees in Connecticut this morning also in costumes, they must have dressed in the dark before going to work). This is what I call going with the flow. I never got Dorothy’s real name, but she made everyone at the gate smile. Thanks Dorothy! Happy Halloween!

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

The Importance of Right and Left Brain Balance

2011-10-27T04:38:00.002-06:00

Since the death of Steve Jobs (and this week’s release of his biography), much attention has been placed on the mind, the personality, and the persona of a most remarkable man. Every interview, remembrance, and tribute includes the words “intuitive” and “perfectionist.” Many, if not all people, consider Jobs to be genius. But what exactly is a genius? Is it intellect? Is it wisdom? Is it foresight? Is it cerebral balance? While many of these post-mortem comments try to gain a better understanding of the myth behind the man, it’s quite obvious that Steve Jobs epitomized the balance of right (intuitive, imaginative, artistic) and left-brain (critical, perfectionism, logical) skills (a birthright given to everybody, but not practiced by many, which is why Steve Jobs seemed so rare). Casting aside the nature vs. nurture argument (Steve was adopted), it also becomes obvious that his right-brain influences did much to balance the left-brain imbalance of the American culture. Steve Jobs was many things indeed, but the epitome of cognitive balance is something we all should and can emulate.

Stress Management Tip for the Day

OK, let’s review: Right brain skills include (but are not limited to) intuition, conceptual thinking, imagination, spatial awareness, emotional thoughts, humor, and musical appreciation. Left-brain skills include rational, linear, judgmental, fact-finding, time-based thinking processes. Each hemisphere of thinking is essential to the whole. Moreover, right brain thinking styles are associated with relaxation, whereas left brain skill are used for survival (hence the fight or flight response). What do you do to cultivate your right brain skills? Pick one style and work on it today. If there is one thing Steve Job’s taught the world, is not to hide behind your own shadow. It's no secret that the quality control factor with Apple was integrity, something we should all strive for. Consider living by the motto, “We go first class, or we don’t go at all.”

Links, Books and Movies Worth Noting:

From the sounds of things, the biography of Steve Jobs looks promising. Taking a peak at the mind of a genius can only help cultivate our own minds to travel in that direction. Here is a link to the Fresh Air interview with Terri Gross on Monday’s show, which includes a link to Terri’s interview with Steve Jobs himself back in 1996.

http://www.npr.org/2011/10/25/141653658/steve-jobs-a-computer-icon-on-life-death-and-apple

Quote for the Day:

“Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” — Steve Jobs

Photo of the Day:

Normally I use my own photographs for this blog, but it was only fitting to have a photo of Steve Jobs for today’s blog entry, which I found on the web. Thanks to whomever took this photo…

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Mind Your Thoughts

2011-10-25T07:54:00.003-06:00

I was reminded of the beauty of the Hawaiian language during my trip to the Big Island of Hawaii where I spoke at the Healing Touch International Conference last week. We were all reminded by several speakers that in the Hawaiian culture, everything is regarded as energy, including words. Words can heal. Words can also damage another’s heart. I was reminded of the proverb that states that words are like arrows… once they leave your mouth, they cannot be retrieved. It takes work to be mindful of your thoughts as you speak. This is one reason why meditation is so helpful. It trains the mind to observe one’s thoughts. Rarely do we become mindful of our thoughts as we speak them. For many people, the filters that guard these words are gone, removed by ego. Mind your thoughts. Please choose your words carefully.

Stress Tip for the Day:

Be mindful of your thoughts today, particularly the ones that leave your lips. Be careful not to offer mixed messages as well. Speak kindly, and filter your thoughts before they leave your mouth. Let your words be feathers, not arrows today (and every day).

Quote for the Day:

“Thoughts are energy, they can kill or cure.” — Bernie Seigel, M.D.

Photo of the Day:

I just returned from my trip to Hawaii. I took this photo of a red water lily where I was staying on the Big Island. Many thoughts go through our heads, though few beautiful ones, like this lily. Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart, Managing Stress (7E) and his forthcoming book, A Beautiful World; The Earth Songs Journals. He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

Don't Forget to Breathe!

2011-10-18T11:46:00.002-06:00

The typical person breathes 14-16 times per minute. When stressed, this number can double, unless the stressed-out person is a breath-holder and forgets to exhale (this really happens, and tends to increase blood pressure and heart rate: the stress response). In a relaxed state, you can breathe comfortably 3-4 times per minute, with slow comfortably deep breaths. Americans tend to be thoracic breathers (with their upper chest) but the most relaxing way to breath is from the abdominal area (with the diaphragm). This is how you sleep at night, from the belly.

Stress Tip for the Day:

Breathing (abdominal breathing) is the easiest technique to promote relaxation. So...take time today for a few deep sighs (deep breaths.) If you have the time, sit quietly 5-10 minutes and do nothing but focusing on slow deep breathing.. your body will thank you.

Quote for the Day:

“There are over 40 different ways to breathe.” —Ancient Chinese proverb

Photo of the Day:

I am in Hawaii right now... doing some work with the returning soldiers from Iraq and Afghanistan (the Wounded Warrior Program; a program for soldiers with PTSD and TBI). This trip is not a vacation, but I did manage to catch a beautiful sunset the other night. Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart, Managing Stress (7E) and his forthcoming book, A Beautiful World; The Earth Songs Journals. He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

Weekend in The Berkshires: Kripalu Retreat Center

2011-10-14T12:23:00.005-06:00

This is a quick note to say hi to my friends and colleagues in the New England area. I write to announce a workshop I have been invited to facilitate at the Kripalu Yoga Retreat Center in Lennox, MA the last weekend in Oct. (28^th-30^th). They have also asked to host a screening of my documentary, Earth Songs: Mountains, Water and the Healing Power of Nature. The theme of the workshop is based on my best selling book, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water: Reflections on Stress and Human Spirituality. This workshop will include some timeless insights, many soul-searching exercises, guided meditations and essential take-home life management skills for optimal health and well-being in these stressful times. Kripalu has even secured some CE’s as well. We would love to see you there if your schedule allows.

Links Worth Noting:

The following links will provide more information to contact the good people at Kripalu:

http://www.kripalu.org/program/view/yogamed/RSHS-111/

http://www.kripalu.org/presenter/V0006748/brian_luke_seaward

Quote for the Day:

“Stress offers the opportunity for spiritual growth... when we take the time to learn from the situation.” —Brian Luke Seaward

Photo of the Day:

This full moon photo was taken two days ago in my back yard...Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart, Managing Stress (7E) and his forthcoming book, A Beautiful World; The Earth Songs Journals. He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

Wall Street Jitters, Main Street Stress

2011-10-13T06:59:00.003-06:00

Money, or the lack of it, has been a stressor for a great many people for a great many eons. Money may make the world go round, but the lack of it can be devastating. The current economic situation, from Greece to Italy to Wall Street, echoes of greed, more greed, corruption and stress, with more stress to come, as more banks, according to experts, begin to fall like dominos. Stress management teaches people to live in the present moment, yet financial wellness insists that we keep an eye on the future with our savings and investments to ensure a greater sense of comfort with the future present moment. A new study has come out to show that after a certain point (about $75,000) more money doesn’t create happiness. Conversely, it seems to create more stress, in the form of greed, fear, even anger. Most people pay banks to hold their money, and end up hemorrhaging money left and right with service fees, etc.. It doesn’t have to be this way. Think credit unions! Be smart with your money. Make it work for you. Vote with your checkbook and caveat emptor!

Stress Tip for The Day:

A conversation among several social luminaries made an interesting monetary suggestion several months ago and it’s a good one. Open up a checking and savings account with your local credit union and transfer your money out of the corporate banking system into your own local neighborhood. As more and more corporate banks begin to charge a host of new fees (e.g., the use of your own debit card, banking online fees, etc.), having control of your own money is your best option. It may seem like a hassle transferring your funds from one bank to another, but a few hours of your time today will be a good investment down the road (particularly as Big banks create more havoc from Wall Street to Main Street. By the way, Credit Unions also provide mortgages and car loans, and with interest rates decreasing, it is a good time to consider refinancing your loans. Healthy boundaries with your money and spending habits are essential to effective stress management. Starting paying attention to your finances today.

Links/Books/Movies Worth Noting:

Here are some links to the Huffington Post blog about Banks and Credit Unions…. Please educate yourself…and please consider watching the documentary, The Inside Job, about the banking scandal.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/arianna-huffington/move-your-money-a-new-yea_b_406022.html?ref=move-your-money

http://moveyourmoneyproject.org/

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mike-garibaldi-frick/turn-banks-into-credit-un_b_161513.html

Quote for the Day:

“In the credit unions, individuals combine together to form an organization which they themselves control and operate.” — Karl S. Little

“Where's that money? Do you realize what this means? It means bankruptcy and scandal and prison! That's what it means! One of us is going to jail... well, it's not gonna be me!” — George Bailey, It’s a Wonderful Life

Photo of the Day:

I had hoped to take a photo of some Euros before I turned them back in after my trip to Tuscany, but I forgot. When this cartoon arrived in my in box, I knew it was too good not to share.

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart, Managing Stress (7E) and his forthcoming book, A Beautiful World; The Earth Songs Journals. He can be reached through his website: www.brianlukeseaward.net

Mind-Body-Spirit Healing

2011-10-10T21:14:00.004-06:00

It is pretty well understood that emotional stress can wreak havoc on the body, precipitating everything from the common cold to cancer. What is less well understood, but equally fascinating, is how our thoughts, feelings and the triumphant human spirit can positively affect our physical health. The words “health” and “healing” are derived from the words “whole” and “holy.” Simply stated, healing means to come to a place of inner peace. From a physiological perspective, the word, “homeostasis” is used to describe a sense of relaxation (i.e., a low resting heart rate and blood pressure readings, etc.). The western world places great emphasis on the body, and the western medical model advocated either drugs or surgery when symptoms of disease or illness reveal themselves. Mind-body-spirit healing takes a different approach: using positive coping strategies such as forgiveness (the word remission translates as forgiveness), humor, creativity, meditation, mental imagery, music and prayer, to name a few, to direct us back to balance. Studies reveal an amazing set of neuropeptides released under a positive mindset. The immune system also responds favorably to happiness and joy. Knowing this, we should all make an effort to unite the healing powers of mind, body and spirit to promote our highest potential.

Stress Tip for The Day:

Negative thoughts can feed on themselves and perpetuate more negative thoughts. What is the antidote? Try shifting your attention to those things that you are grateful for, things you really appreciate in life. An attitude of gratitude isn’t a denial of bad situations or circumstances, it’s a means to balance your scale of emotions and bring yourself back to a place of inner peace. Like any skill, it may take some practice, but with practice it will open your mind to a new perspective that you are not a passive victim in a cruel world. Rather positive thoughts and emotions, even briefly shed light in to our lives, and light is a profound metaphor for inner peace. Make a list of all the things you are truly grateful for. After this, make a list of all those things that bring a smile to your face and joy to your heart. Your body will surly thank you.

Links/Books/Movies Worth Noting:

There are scores of books on the topic of mind-body-spirit healing, but I would like to share some movies as well:

1. The Living Matrix

2. What the Bleep Do We Know?

Quote for the Day:

“There is no separation between mind and body or spirit from emotions. It is all one beautiful, dynamic package.” — Brian Luke Seaward

Photo of the Day:

Singer/songwriter Dan Sebranek returned to the 13^th Mountain Mind-Body-Spirit healing retreat in Vail last weekend performing a most memorable concert of ballads, jazz, folk and blues. Thanks Dan…. See you in the Emerald Isle for our Spirit of Ireland: A Healing Journey next summer!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart, Managing Stress (7E) and his forthcoming book, A Beautiful World; The Earth Songs Journals. He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

Tribute: Thank You Steve Jobs

2011-10-06T22:25:00.004-06:00

There is not much more I can say that hasn’t already been said, but like so many others, I too wish to express my gratitude. I am forever indebted to the creators of the Apple Computer (not to mention the Ipod, and Ipad), from which I wrote over 12 books and made the documentary, Earth Songs. Thank you, Steve Jobs. You will be greatly missed.

Quote for the Day:

“Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be  trapped by dogma, which is living with the results of other people's thinking.  Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and

intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”   —Steve Jobs.

Photo of the Day:

A graphic from the web in tribute to Steve Jobs.

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart, Managing Stress (7E) and his forthcoming book, A Beautiful World; The Earth Songs Journals. He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

Stress and the Slow Food Movement

2011-10-06T07:04:00.002-06:00

Have you heard of the slow food movement? It was created in 1986 by Italian journalist Carlo Petrini (in disgust of the opening of McDonalds in Rome). His creation was put forth as an option to the fast food mentality that swept the world a few decades ago. The premise of the Slow Food Movement , quite big in the US now, has three tiers: First, the food must be of the highest quality, (e.g., organic, not GMO’d or processed to death and unrecognizable from the natural ingredients of which it came.) Second, the food must be grown sustainably? (i.e., many foods are produced in unsustainable ways including monoculture approaches, food transportation, and the use of petrochemicals as fertilizers.) Third, the food must be harvested in a fair-trade manner (i.e., the people who work the fields must be paid an humane/living wage). The Slow Food Movement is also based on the concept of actually “cooking” the food with love (vs. nuking it in a microwave or eating it out of a cardboard box)... and eating each meal, each bite, fully conscious of the tastes, the smells, the presentation,—everything it took to make one fully appreciate the gift of each meal. Today, most people inhale their food, barely having it touch the tongue’s taste buds, nor conscious of where it came or how it got from the field to the fork.

With the fact that most food travels up to 1,500 miles in the US before being consumed, the Slow Food Movement invites people to shop locally (also known as the 100 mile diet), eat seasonally grown food (i.e., strawberries, available in stores nearly year round, are a summer fruit). The slow food movement began out of a concern that people were not cultivating a healthy relationship with food. Rather, most people have a nutritional relationship with convenience, to the detriment of their health. The Slow Food Movement is an effort to help people return to center with nutrition and eating behaviors. The Slow Food Movement; a relaxed way to eat. Bon Appetito!

Stress Tip for The Day:

What is your relationship with the food you eat? Do you cook your own meals? More specifically, do you cook the majority of your meals or are they prepared/processed elsewhere and heated up in your home, or simply eating out of a cardboard box? (by the way, did you know that the most common utensil in a restaurant kitchen in a pair of sissors to cut plastic bags containing processed food?) When you buy food in the grocery story, is it packaged (then cooked) in plastic? Do you have any idea where the food you buy actually comes from (how far away is it grown and how far does it travel?) The association between stress and disease includes the fact that our food is typically laden with petrochemicals that can and will cause harm to the body. How sustainable are your eating behaviors, from field/farm to fork? The the buyer beware! Please…take time to slow down and enjoy each bit of each meal you consume. You are worth it!

Links/Books/Movies Worth Noting:

For more on this topic please consider viewing this links:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Slow_Movement

http://kingsriverlife.com/07/16/what-is-the-slow-food-movement/

http://www.metropolismag.com/story/20080319/revenge-of-the-slow

Quote for the Day:

“People in Slow Food understand that food is an environmental issue.“‑ Michael Pollan, author, In Defense of Food

Photo of the Day:

While in Tuscany last week, we ate dinner one night at Roberto’s Bistro, near the town of Pienza. Roberto is a big advocate of the slow food movement (these tomatoes were not picked by slave labor he told us) and the meal he prepared for us was nothing less than excellent. Here is a photo of our first course. Thanks, Roberto! Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart, Managing Stress (7E) and his forthcoming book, A Beautiful World; The Earth Songs Journals. He can be reached through his website: www.brianlukeseaward.net

Friends in Need: Support Groups as a Stress Buffer

2011-10-03T07:40:00.003-06:00

There is a theory in stress management called the “buffer theory.” It states that when we have a strong group of friends to support us in tough times, these friendships “buffer” us from taking a metaphorical
hard fall. Stress management techniques, you say? Meditation is great (and necessary). Exercise is practically mandatory (to flush the stress hormones). Humor (comic relief) is a must, but a small group of close friends are essential to cope with stress, and the research bears this
out, from breast cancer support groups to book clubs and golf outings. We are not talking Facebook friends here. There is a growing concern that technology and social media has widened the gap between people to form strong interpersonal relationships (friendships). Being close virtually is not the same thing as sitting together and baring your soul, sharing your problems without filters, and sharing common values. With real friends, you have eye contact, hugs, the sound of laughter and occasionally, even tears. Real friends call you up on the phone and take you to lunch. Real friends know your faults and love you still the same. Friends in need are friends indeed!

Stress Tip for The Day:
Takeinventory of your “real” friends today. You cannot have solid friendships with 500 Facebook or Linkedin contacts. It’s just not possible. A support group typically consists of 2-4 really close
friends and usually these people are outside of your family, yet people you see in person frequently. Make a list of your friends. Perhaps even update the list. Are there people who have moved down the list because they “just aren’t there for you anymore). Our support groups are always in flux too. People come, people go. Sadly, some friend die). What do you do replenish your support group? Consider making some friends, by meeting some new people with similar interests and professional goals. Call up a friend and go for a walk … or a movie or a cup of herbal tea. Finally, tell your friends how much you appreciate them. We are on this earth for a very short time, don’t take anyone for granted.

Links/Books/Movies Worth Noting:
If you were to Google the term support groups, you will see there is one listed for every interest, every disease, and every addiction known to man. Rather than pull a couple and list them here, I though I would just mention (again) the importance of friends and getting out and meeting some new people (book clubs, professional conferences, theme trips (like the Eat, Walk, Meditate: Care for the Caregiver trip to Tuscany we just completed).

Quote for the Day:
“A single rose can be my garden... a single friend, my world.” —Leo Buscaglia

“Be courteous to all, but intimate with few, and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence.” —George Washington

Photo of the Day:
How can you go on a 10-day trip to Tuscany with some great people and not make new friends? We did! We are back from the Tuscany trip (what a trip!) and I think it is safe to say that each of us has a more solid support group. One day while staying the town of Pienza, some gals discovered a leathercraft store and each bought friendship bracelet. The idea was shared amongst the group and by the trip’s end we all joined in with this special bond (symbol) of friendship from the trip). Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the
author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart, Managing Stress (7E) and his forthcoming book, A Beautiful World; The Earth Songs Journals. He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Insights on the Mediterranean Diet: Notes From Our Tour in Tuscany

2011-09-30T14:14:00.004-06:00

The American diet is known to be high in saturated fats. Not so in Italy. Olive oil rules the day. Olive oil is a monounsaturated fat (one double bond, whereas polyunsaturated oils have more than one double bone… for those interested). Between the olive oil (served with lunch and dinner), a glass of red wine ( lots of antioxidants to help regulate cholesterol levels) and many great spices, from garlic to basal to sage and rosemary, what has become known as the “Mediterranean diet” is renowned for decreasing the risk of coronary heart disease. Here are some interesting facts we learned about olive oil while here in the Tuscany region: Olives are generally harvested in the fall (FYI the drought here has taken its toll on the olives). Once collected, they are pressed immediately for their oil. Virgin olive oil is pressed a cool temperature. The reason being: heat and light make oils go rancid (aside from not tasting good, rancid oils can act like free radicals and destroy cell membranes, RNA, DNA and mitochondria— Not good!). Virgin olive oil must have a low pH; with a higher the pH, it gets a different classification. A bottle of olive oil should be kept in a dark place, (not over the stove, and from what we learned, no Italians keep it in the fridge where it solidifies). The best containers are tin or dark glass, to keep the light out, and we were told on our tour that a good bottle has a years’ shelf life …at most! (Check your kitchen). As a side note, I am convinced that a BIG part of the Mediterranean diet, never discussed, is eating with friends and family. Support groups certainly affect one's health status, and no Italians eat alone!

Stress Tip for the Day:

Check the oils your kitchen, particularly the olive oil. Open it and smell it. Rancid oils typically don’t smell good. If you have had the bottle for more than a year, you might with to consider replacing it with a fresh bottle. Italians love to cook with olive oil, so consider placing a bottle on your dinner table to have with a piece of bread, or over a dish of pasta (covered in ragu, pesto or cream sauce). Include more monounsaturated oils in your diet...

Links/Books/Movies Worth Noting:

For more information on the Mediterranean diet, here are a few links…

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mediterranean_diet

http://www.lifeinitaly.com/food/mediterranean-diet.asp

Quote for the Day:

“Every now and then consider gifting a friend of family member with a bottle of great olive oil.” —Luigi Pascatore

Photo for the Day:

I am writing this blog entry from our Spirit of Tuscany tour (more about that later), and the other day we took a tour through an olive oil pressing plant (pictured above) where, after the tour of the plant, we were invited to sample the oil... We also went to a winery and everyone was invited to sample the wine, but that's a different story. Simply fascinating… Enjoy….Ciao!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (7E) and the forthcoming, A Beautiful World; The Earth Songs Journals. He can be reached through his website: www.brianlukeseaward.net

Under A Tuscan Sun: Lessons on life from Italy!

2011-09-26T04:25:00.006-06:00

Greetings from Tuscany! Today’s blog entry comes to you from Pienza, Italy; a land where people really know how to live! And manage stress. The pace of life here is comfortable. People don’t know the meaning of the world “rush.” They embrace life through the five senses: the aromas, the music, the artwork, the cool autumn breezes, and the food. Did I mention the food? Fresh tomato sauce. Basal picked fresh out of the garden. Pasta (gluten free, even) in a delicious cheese sauce, virgin olive oil spread on top and tiramisu for desert. People walk everywhere. They look into their friend’s eyes when conversing and everyone greets you hello. There is even romance in the air for those inclined in this direction. Life is bigger than life, and that is how life is supposed to be.

Stress Tip for the Day:

Follow some advice from the Tuscans… relax! Cook a meal from scratch tonight. Enjoy the company of friends this afternoon. Chew your food slowly and savor each taste. Listen to some Vivaldi, Corelli, Scarlatti or Andrea Bocelli. Go for a sunset walk. Enjoy a gelato. Enjoy the good life, no matter where you are! Life is too short to worry or fret. Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy!

Links/Books/Movies Worth Noting:

There are scores of movies to add to the Tuscan ambiance including the most renown: Under a Tuscan Sun. But don’t stop there: Enchanted April or A Room With a View are also great movies.

Here is a link to some books about Tuscany. Enjoy

http://goitaly.about.com/od/tuscany/tp/tuscanybooks.htm

Quote for the Day:

“The world cracks open for those willing to take a risk.” — Frances Mayes, author, Under A Tuscan Sun

Photo for the Day:

It may be iconic, but hey, that’s why people come to Tuscany… the land of icons, from Florence to Siena. This photo was taken earlier today moments after sunrise from my hotel room…. Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (7E) and the forthcoming, A Beautiful World. He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

Time To Meditate

2011-09-21T06:46:00.005-06:00

If you have ever tried to keep up with all the daily postings on Facebook, if you have ever tried to surf the internet and find yourself getting sucked into the vast web of content, if you have ever tried to scan all the cable TV channels looking for something good to watch, then you are well aware that indeed, we are headstrong into “the information age.” There is a line in the Jefferson Airplane song, Go Ask Alice, stating: “Feed your head”, and while it didn’t refer to digesting information, there really is no difference in the feeding process. Don’t stuff yourself! Experts in the field of stress management say with great regularity these days that our brains (while quite extraordinary) were not designed (or even capable) of the incredible sensory bombardment of information that we are exposed to today. At the same time, spiritual luminaries remind us of the importance of meditation, which simply defined means this: “increased concentration which leads to increased awareness.” A regular practice of meditation helps clear the head of superfluous details and ego chitter-chatter (distractions) so that we can begin to focus on what really matters, rather than become distracted by all the information eye-candy on the information superhighway. Meditation is not a religion. Meditation is simply a healthy behavior for mental clarity.

Stress Tip for The Day:
So.. it’s time to meditate. Find a quiet spot to sit or lay down, close your eyes and focus on your breathing. If you get bored doing this, know that boredom is part of the meditation process. If your mind wanders (as it surely will), direct your thoughts back to your breathing solely on your breathing. Start off with 5 minutes and work your way up to 10 minutes, then 15 minutes after a few weeks until it become routine: second nature. Meditation should become as regular as taking a shower or brushing your teeth everyday. The benefits of meditation are many, from increased attention span and quality of sleep to an improved immune system and lower resting heart rate and blood pressure. It’s time to meditate!

Links/Books/Movies Worth Noting:
There are scores of books and websites on meditation, and since meditation is incorporated into nearly every religion, most websites have a religious inference (meditation is not a religion, if someone says otherwise...run!) While working with Olympic Athletes years ago, we called exercises in sport psychology mental training, of which meditation is a part. A great book on meditation (mindfulness meditation) is Peace is Every Step by Thich Nat Hahn. There are also several daily meditation books, with a meditation thought per day (my favorites are The Promise of a New Day and 356 Tao).

Quote for the Day:
“I finally get meditation…. It’s like deleting old emails.” —8th Grader at Sunset Middle School

Photo of the Day:
One day while doing some photography at the Denver Botanical Gardens, I saw a man meditating and thought it would make a great photo… Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart, Managing Stress (7E) and his forthcoming book, A Beautiful World; The Earth Songs Journals. He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Success is:

2011-09-19T07:20:00.003-06:00

What is success? The answer appears to vary from person to person, country to country, and age to age. Some see success as having lots of money or possessions (he who dies with the most toys wins). Others see success as having fame and recognition. Perhaps being successful is being happy with what you have, no matter the situation. Thousands of books have been written about what success is and how to get it. Again… it’s all a matter of perspective as the joke below
suggests:
This is the bell curve of life:
At age 4 success is… not peeing in your pants
At age 12 success is…. having friends
At age 16 success is…. having a driver’s license
At age 20 success is…. having sex
At age 30 success is…. having money
At age 50 success is…. having money
At age 60 success is…. having sex
At age 70 success is…. having a driver’s license
At age 75 success is…. having friends
At age 80 success is…. not peeing in your pants!

Stress Tip for The Day:
What does success mean for you? Is a goal to achieve, as state of mind to behold? Or is it merely a state of mind, a feeling of contentment. Today the stress tip is to honor your successes in life. Rather than worrying about what may be, take a deep breath and enjoy what you have, the things you take for granted. Being successful means recognizing that you are a beautiful soul regardless of what anyone else thinks.

Links/Books/Movies Worth Noting:
Bookstores are filled with self-help sections on everything from codependency to the art of success. Here is one link that we can add to the mix…
http://www.successmagazine.com/

Quote for the Day:
“To laugh often and love much; to win the respect of intelligent persons and the affection of children; to earn the approbation of honest citizens and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to give of one’s self; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to have played and laughed with enthusiasm and sung with exultation; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived—this is to have succeeded.” — Ralph Waldo Emmerson

Photo of the Day:
Sometimes success is simply enjoying vacation time, in this case, a secluded beach in the Virgin Islands… Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart, Managing Stress (7E) and his forthcoming book, A Beautiful World; The Earth Songs Journals. He can be reached through his website: www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

The Body as a Temple

2011-09-15T07:43:00.003-06:00

Many cultures around the world speak of the body as a temple, a sacred place in which we inhabit. This universal message speaks to the inherent connection between body and spirit, for the wisdom keepers the world over remind us that within this temple resides the soul. From what we eat, even what we wear to how we exercise, and what ideas we fill our head all these constitute care for this temple. Fasting was and still is encouraged, not as a means to lose weight, but as a way to cleanse the temple. Likewise meditation is a means to fast the mind’s mental chitter-chatter, produced by the ego. The ego too, can make a mess of the temple. For millennia, wisdom keepers have reminded us to not only honor our bodies, but to honor the temple within; to honor the body-spirit connection. And true to form, this message is often unheeded today. Nutrition habits are abysmal. Exercises habits are not much better. Everywhere on the planet ego’s have run amuck. Simple stated, the state of the body temple is not only stressed, it’s a mess! To quote your mother, “Clean your room!”

Stress Tip for The Day:
What is your relationship with your body? Do you view it as a temple… or a convenient store? Are you what you eat? Do you feed your head with negative news and junk food entertainment? Does your temple need a good sweeping with a broom (perhaps a shovel)? Consider the concept of the fast today, but not as missing calories or news content, but as a way to cleanse the temple of your body-mind. In doing so, take comfort in the emptiness where the divine resides within. Honor your temple!

Links/Books/Movies Worth Noting:
Sometimes cleansing the temple means clearing out some emotional baggage as well. This film (link) won an award at the Cannes Film Festival for short (3 min) film… Enjoy

www.porcelainunicorn.com

This is the page/link where I pull the two quotes below and there were so
many, I decided to include the link here. Enjoy!
http://www.quotegarden.com/body.html

Quote for the Day:
“ To keep the body in good health is a duty... otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear. ” —Buddha

“Our bodies are our gardens - our wills are our gardeners.” —William Shakespeare

Photo of the Day:
The Earth (by extension) is also a temple, and although the entire planet is sacred, many places are considered the epitome of sacredness, including the Tetons. This group of the Tetons is known as the Cathedral Group. Enjoy.

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 12 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart, Managing Stress (7E) and his forthcoming book, A Beautiful World; The Earth Songs Journals. He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Join Us for a Relaxing Autumn Weekend in New England!

2011-09-14T11:53:00.003-06:00

Dear Friends, Fans and Colleagues,
The renowned Kripalu Yoga Center in Lennox, MA has invited me to do a weekend retreat Oct 28-30th based on my bestselling book, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water. If you have an interest is unplugging from your fast-paced lifestyle and finding your center of balance, come join us in the beautiful and relaxing Berkshires mountains this October. Kripalu has even secured some CE’s as well. The Earth Songs documentary film will be screened on Sat night, too. Below are two links with more contact information. Hope to see you in October.

Links Worth Noting:
http://www.kripalu.org/program/view/yogamed/RSHS-111/

http://www.kripalu.org/presenter/V0006748/brian_luke_seaward

Quote for the Day:
“Two roads diverged in a yellow wood, and sorry I could not travel both and be one traveler.” — Robert Frost

Photo for the Day:
A New England road less traveled, taken when I lived in Vermont many moons ago. Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart, Managing Stress (7E) and his forthcoming book, A Beautiful World; The Earth Songs Journals. He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Stress and the Daily Email Avalanche

2011-09-12T06:54:00.005-06:00

Unless you don’t have an email address (and if so, you can stop reading now) you are not immune from the onslaught of emails and Facebook notifications that appear daily in your inbox. The onslaught of emails supports the premise that information is in great supply, but wisdom is scarce. The creator of the now famous TED lecture series, Chris Anderson, has initiated an Email Charter; rules of etiquette for corresponding with emails. While it may seem like common sense, the fact that there are no agreed-upon rules, makes opening, reading and responding to email a major stressor for a lot of people. Compounding the problem is the addiction many people have to checking their email inbox, coupled with the need to respond right away (immediate gratification) or the guilt associated with not responding right away. Several years ago, the leaders of many high tech companies (Google, Apple, Microsoft, Oracle, etc.) got together to discuss the new high tech monster called email. While no solution was reached, the stated problem was very real. Not long afterward, the founder of TED decided to create an Email Charter (see the links below for details& specifics).

Stress Tip for the Day:
There is no shortage of suggestions about healthy boundaries regarding emails, but here are a few. After the obvious (such as deleting all emails that have been forwarded, not reading emails that begin with Re: or have attachments, here are a few more things to remember:
1. Set healthy boundaries when checking your email (e.g., five times a day), and not before breakfast or after dinner.
2. Do not bring technology into the bedroom (no emails or texting from your bed).
3. If you would rather send an email to avoid someone directly, ask yourself what are you really
avoiding.
4. Remember, checking email in the presence of another person is rude, particularly if you are in the midst of a conversation with him or her.
5. Communicate to close friends that you would rather have them call you or visit in person than deluge you with emails or Facebook updates.

Links/Books/Movies Worth Noting:
The following are two links with suggestions for good email etiquette. Enjoy!
http://blog.ted.com/2011/06/30/the-email-charter-an-idea-worth-spreading/
http://tedchris.posterous.com/help-create-an-email-charter
http://emailcharter.org/

Quote for the Day:
“Men won't read any email from any woman that's over 200 words long.” — Doug Coupland

Photo for the Day:
While prepping new photos for the 7th edition of my textbook, Managing Stress, I took some photos for the new chapter, The Sociology of stress, including this one (my neighbor who modeled some images…) Thanks, Shaan.

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (7E) and the forthcoming, A Beautiful World. He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

The Importance of Fiber

2011-09-08T07:35:00.004-06:00

While visiting a friend in Aspen a few weeks ago, the topic of diet came up over dinner. Have you heard of the book, The China Study, I was asked? The book explores the eating habits and health status of the Chinese and other Asians. The “take-home” message is that the typical Chinese diet is high in fiber (and low in animal protein), suggesting this is the reason why the Chinese have a lower rate of heart disease, cancer and diabetes when compared to Americans. The World Health Organization recommends between 50-60 grams of fiber per day. Note: The typical American consumes about 5-10 grams/day, if that. Processed foods, junk foods, comfort foods and fast foods typically don’t contain fiber. And as one of my guest speakers in my Nutrition, Health and Performance course would say, “There is not a whole lot of fiber in iceberg lettuce, gals.”
Why is fiber (also known as roughage) so important? Fiber (cellulose tissue that cannot be digested) acts like a broom that cleans out the gastro-intestinal tract. As such, it helps flush out cholesterol, and various other substances (and toxins) that might otherwise be absorbed into the bloodstream. Fiber, it is believed, is the first line of defense in regulating blood sugar levels. The Standard American Diet (SAD) is filled with empty calories (and little fiber). The goal of each meal is to eat nutrient-dense foods, lots of fruits and veggies and only a small portion of protein. While the premise of the book, The Chine Study, promotes veganism (not necessarily the intent here), the message here is that we all need to eat more fiber in our diets, regardless.

Stress Tip for the Day:
Foods high in fiber include fruits and veggies (broccoli, carrots, kale, cabbage, and many legumes (garbanzo beans, black beans, kidney beans, etc.) and whole grains (such as quinoa) etc.). By no coincidence, these same foods contain a host of vitamins and minerals necessary for optimal metabolism. So what’s for dinner tonight? Think fiber! Eat Fiber!

Links/Books/Movies Worth Noting:
Like every diet book, there are advocates and critics. Here are two links, one of each as well as the book title itself.

http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2011/01/07/nutrition-advice-from-the-china-study/

http://www.cholesterol-and-health.com/China-Study.html

Campbell, C., The China Study: The Most Comprehensive Study of Nutrition Ever Conducted and the Startling Implications for Diet, Weight Loss and Long-Term Health. 2005.

Quote for the Day:
“Let food be your medicine and medicine be your foods.” — Hippocrates

Photo for the Day:
As part of a slide show I put together, called The Low Stress Diet, I went to Whole Foods one day and purchased a few bags of produce, including some cabbage for a photo-shoot. Afterward, I had one tremendous meal. Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (7E) as well as the forthcoming book, A Beautiful World. He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Stress and The Art of Creative Problem Solving

2011-09-06T06:57:00.008-06:00

I watched with interest and curiosity as a friend became incredibly
worked-up over a software malfunction. In what could have been an easy solution soon became a series of frustrating tech support phone calls (lasting days), which only compounded his frustration no end. The expression, “Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy” came to mind several times. Creative problem solving is one of the most empowering techniques in stress management, because it enables the individual to stop spinning one’s wheels and move on. The biggest impediment to the creative process is the ego, which can either override any idea of merit, or play the “I’m right and I’ll prove it,” game. To get the most out of the creative solving process you have to step outside of the situation (also known as getting “outside the box”) to gain a sense of clarity of not only the problem, but all the possible solutions (and there is always more than one viable solution to a problem). The creative process involves several steps: (1. the search for ideas, 2, the incubation of ideas, 3) the selection of the best idea and 4) making the idea happen). The key is to do them in the right order.

Stress Tip for the Day:
Call to mind a problem that has been camped out on the landscape of your mind for a while, or perhaps has appeared recently. The first step in creative problem solving begins with identifying the problem. How would a child see the problem? How would a person from New Zealand or Australia or an alien see the problem? Once you have a good fix on the issue, come up with a least four viable options as well as one zany solution (zany ideas may not be viable, but they can open the door to new possibilities.) After surveying the list of ideas, select the best one and then put your game plan into action. Remember, there is no room for ego in the creative process. Whereas stress can be immobilizing, creativity is liberating….Be creative! Become empowered!

Links/Books/Movies Worth Noting:
My ultimate favorite book on creativity is Roger von Oech’s books, A Whack on the Side of the Head and A Kick in the Seat of the Pants. His Creative Whack Pack is now an App on the Apple store.

Quote for the Day:
“Every act of creation is first an act of destruction. ” —Pablo Picasso

Photo for the Day:
This photo is of a stained glass window located in the Blasket Island Museum on the Dingle Peninsula of Ireland, created to depict the story of the Blasket Islands visually. Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 12 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (7E) and his forthcoming, A Beautiful World. He can be reached through his website: www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Healthy Boundaries…. See you in September

2011-08-08T06:42:00.004-06:00

To honor the concept of healthy boundaries (and to enjoy the last few weeks of summer), this blog will take a vacation, returning after Labor Day. Thank you to all the readers who have been so kind with your positive feedback. There are many back issues to check out and revisit and I will have lots of new themes and topics (and photos) when Stressfully Speaking returns. See you in September!

Stress Tip for the Day:
Practice some healthy boundaries as well. Remember to take some time off for yourself.

Quote for the Day:

“Deep summer is when laziness finds respectability.” —Sam Keen

“In summer, the song sings itself.” –William Carlos Williams

Photo for the Day:
A humpback whale waves its tail before it descends into the deep blue waters of Tahiti. Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (7E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Clean Your Belly Button!

2011-08-05T07:54:00.003-06:00

Researchers, in trying to find the source of staph infections in hospitals, think they might have the answer; your belly button. Most people, when taking a shower or bath, kind of gloss over the naval area. Few people, if anybody, scrubs the navel really good. As it turns out, the belly button plays host to a lot of germs and bacteria, including staph. WHO KNEW? While most of us may never go under the knife, it’s good to know these things if you do. No need complicating any surgical procedure with a staph infection, as many of these bugs are now resistant to our best drugs. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. Avoid one more kind of stress you never knew was out there...Clean your belly button!

Stress Tip for The Day:
While it might seem obvious to practice good hygiene with your belly button, the real stress tip for the day is this: Be sure to have a good patient advocate if you ever end up in the hospital. Hospital staff (particularly nurses, bless their hearts) are under a LOT of stress these days. Although it would be nice to think they can attend to every patient's need, this isn’t always the case due to mounds of paperwork. A patient advocate (e.g. a close friend or relative) is someone who stays on top of things, like surgical procedures, (make sure they operate on the right body part), medications, and all the rest. Its disturbing to know that the 4th or 5th leading cause of death in the US is due to medical mistakes. So… start with cleaning your belly button, but don’t stop there.

Links/Books/Movies Worth Noting:
For those of you interested, here are a few links with more information on today’s topic:

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2011/08/110803174757.htm

http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/releases/75042.php

http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/releases/41088.php

Quote for the Day:
“Hygiene is two thirds of health.” - Lebanese Proverb

“The only equipment lack in the modern hospital? Somebody to meet you at the entrance with a handshake!” ~Martin H. Fischer

Photo of the Day:
Cusco, Peru is referred to by natives as the “navel of the world.” It was only fitting, therefore to have today’s photo be an image of the heart of Cusco (mixed metaphors not withstanding). Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (7E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Vail Mountain Retreat Weekend this October

2011-08-02T09:40:00.008-06:00

Please join us in Vail, Colorado this Columbus Day weekend at the world renowned Sonnenalp hotel Oct 7-9 for a glorious mountain getaway. This retreat offers some wonderful relaxation and guided mental imagey sessions, some thought-provoking, soul-searching exercises and of course, plenty of free to time to enjoy Vail Village. Special guests include singer/songwriter Dan Sebranek for a Saturday night concert (including an I set of Irish tunes). The Sonnenalp resort has offered an incredible rate of $120/night. Each room has a gas fireplace and heated bathroom floors, not to mention a wonderful spa. The ambiance of the Sonnenalp, not to mention Vail, Colorado, is nothing less than magical this time of year and it's the perfect spot to regain your center of gravity, and come back to a place of inner peace in these turbulent times. For more information please go to the Upcoming Events page of www.brianlukeseaward.net and download the pdf brochure with all the information. Come home to the Colorado Rockies!

Stress Tip for the Day:
Consider joining us in Vail this October.... It's just what your spirit needs!

Quote for the Day:
“Sometimes the cure for restlessness is rest.” —Colleen Wainwright

“He enjoys true leisure who has time to improve his soul's estate.” —Henry David Thoreau.

Photo of the Day:
A view of the Rocky Mountains that promises to take your breath away. Enjoy

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (7E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Ascension 101: Health of the Human Spirit

2011-07-31T22:34:00.004-06:00

If you pursue the question of spiritual well-being with any kind ofpassion, at some point you will come face to face with the concept of the “ascension process.” Ascension means many things to many people, but wisdom keepers speak of this as a significant advancement up the spiritual spiral; an elevation of consciousness, a significant soul-growth process. Implicit, for some, in the concept of ascension is a fall, as in the fall from grace. Though there are many interpretations of “the fall,” simply stated, the fall occurs every time the shadow of the ego eclipses the light of the soul. For some people this is a pretty deep decent into darkness. Conversely, the ascent is described by some as the ascension of divine energy up the spine (also known as the Kundalini Energy). As this energy rises, from the root chakra to the crown chakra, the cleansing process in each chrakra region can be emotionally painful (as one learns to release old thoughts, feelings, and perceptions that no longer serve one's wellbeing). Carl Jung addressed the concept of the ascension process, tacitly, as the union of the conscious and unconscious minds, where the wisdom of the unconscious and collective (divine) consciousness rises up to a conscious level. As consciousness rises, we evolve spiritually, acting less from a motivation of fear and more from love. The ascension process is a shift (upward) from the darkness of fear toward the light of love and compassion. In many ways, this is a small step up through the “doors of perception,” yet for many with ego attachment, the abyss is nothing short of a quantum leap up.

Stress Tip for The Day:
Step outside your “guarded self” today and observe how often your thoughts and actions are fear-based. As you do this, take inventory on what expectations weren’t met. What aspect of your life didn’t seem in control? Take inventory of the ego's shadow. Then assess how to release these thoughts, feelings and perceptions so you can move toward a motivation of love and compassion. There are many colors of love’s rainbow (e.g., patience, forgiveness, optimism, courage, tolerance, persistence, faith, humor, creativity and of course, compassion). Rather than taking one step forward and two back (and losing ground), take two steps forward, one toward the doors of a new perception and the second through the door... toward the light. Go ahead. Take the leap!

Links/Books/Movies Worth Noting:
If you were to Google the ascension process you would find everything from the sublime to the ridiculous. So consider starting with some books: A couple of great books to read of this ilk included the following: Man and his Symbols by Carl Jung And a new collection of essays on the topic of Kundalini, called Kundalini Rising published by Sounds True.

Quote for the Day:
“Modern man is sick because he is not whole.” — Carl G. Jung

Photo of the Day:
Rainbows often serve as a symbol of divine love. Colorado has been blessed with many rainbows this summer (lots of early morning and late afternoon showers with ample sunlight.) I have been blessed to capture them with my camera. Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (7E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Fresh Fish Anyone? A Problem With Our Oceans

2011-07-27T20:48:00.006-06:00

These days, stress seems to affect everything, not the least of which are our oceans. A recent cover story on TIME magazine titled The Future of Fish was anything but reassuring. Our demand for fish is about to exceed the supply. Experts have been predicting for years that un-enforced limits on fishing would eventually begin to wipe out entire species of fish. That day is closing in on us. The problem is so severe that in Asia people are turning to Jelly fish as a source of food (oddly enough, jelly fish seem to thrive in warming ocean temps with more acidity). Some say that aquaculture (manmade fisheries) will be THE answer, but this is not without its own stressors. According to TIME magazine, since 1960 worldwide seafood consumption has increased 60%, leaving our oceans in short supply. 90% of Atlantic Salmon are not wild, rather they come from farms (these fish have to be given pellets to make their flesh pink). Some names of fish have been changed to make them more appealing (and were once thought to be garbage fish decades ago not worth eating) including Chilean Sea Bass (Patagonian Toothface fish—not even a bass) and Orange Roughy (slime face fish). Add to this mix the fact that many wild fish: Tuna, Swordfish and Salmon contain potentially toxic levels of mercury and PCB’s (toxins we then consume) and this is one fish story that no one boasts about.

Stress Tip for The Day:
By now you have heard of the benefits of eating cold (deep) water fish for their Omega 3 oils. It’s true. Eating fresh fish is quite good for you, but there are caveats. Before you buy your fish from the market, ask the person behind the counter where the fish comes from (farm or wild). If they plead ignorant, find someone who knows. Although more expensive, wild is always preferred over farm-raised fish, including shrimp. Also find out what day the fish comes to market and try to buy it on that day (usually Tuesdays and Saturdays). Rest assured that most restaurants serve “farm raised” salmon (remember, the best choice is wild salmon!) Make a habit to become educated about the health of our oceans and the fish that you eat from them. Finally, consider some new fish recipes to broadend your pallette: Here is a quick recipe: Marinate 2-4 servings of fresh Coho Salmon in Paul Newman's Italian Dressing for 30 minutes. After preheating the oven, cover then cook the fish in the marinade for 20-30 mins (350 degrees) until done. Serve over a bed of fresh mashed potatoes (not from a box) or wild rice. Add a side of organic corn on the cob (organic butter) and fresh organic greens with raspberry vinegarette dressing. Yum!

Links/Books/Movies Worth Noting:
For starters, see if you can get your hands on, the read the TIME article (July 18th, 2011).
It’s not good news about the ocean fisheries, but here is some more information to understand the bigger picture:
http://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2002/02/0225_0226_fishcrisis.html

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/11/02/AR2006110200913.html

Quote for the Day:
“In the hands of an able cook, fish can become an inexhaustible source of perpetual delight.” — J.B. Savarin

Photo of the Day:
Fresh catch of the day! Last summer while in on the island of Moorea (Tahiti) I saw various fishermen out at the end of the day with their catch. This guy was proud to pose with his fish. Fresh fish indeed! Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (7E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

In Remembrance:

2011-07-27T07:10:00.003-06:00

Today, we honor the dead and wounded of last week’s horrible and
senseless act of violence in Oslo, Norway. Please keep these people in
your heart with thoughts and prayers in this stressful time of grieving. Thank you. To my friends in Norway, I wish you peace.

Quote for the Day:
“Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak whispers the o'er-fraught heart and bids it break.” —William Shakespeare

Photo of the Day:
Years ago I was invited to Norway on behalf of the US Olympic Biathlon team, as their sport psychologist. Norway is a beautiful country with the friendliest people on the planet. This photo of their flag was taken outside of Oslo.

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (7E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

A Time for Heroes...The Hero’s Journey Revisited….

2011-07-24T20:47:00.006-06:00

With all the problems in the world today, perhaps the popularity of superhero movies is to be expected. Harry Potter, Thor, X-Men... like millions of others, I went to the movie theater last weekend to see Captain America; A classic hero’s journey tale. The renowned mythologist, Joseph Campbell, stated that we gravitate toward these stories because we need to repeatedly hear the message: The hero must rise to the occasion and then return home! Like a map and compass, these stories provide we viewers (or readers) with the “tools” to get home safely. Each and everyone of us is on a hero’s journey. Rising to the occasion in real life means coping with stressors gracefully, not as a victim. Every superhero will face his or her nemesis. So will we: The boss from hell. A foreclosure. Alcoholism. The ex-spouse from hell, etc. To be honest, the list of stressors is nearly endless. Each hero is given two choices: Rise to the occasion and deal with things gracefully, or declare victimization. There really is no choice! Watching a movie about a self-declared victim is a weak, if not boring, plot line. Perhaps you know this story. It’s one thing to watch superhero movies. It’s quite another to “walk the talk” and become the hero of your own life. There is no time like the present. Campbell also gave this repeated warning. “Live your own life rather than trying to imitate someone’s story.” Be your authentic self. Be an authentic hero!

Stress Tip for The Day:
True to fashion of the hero’s journey, the hero gets some help along the way. Dorothy had the ruby red slippers. Frodo had Gandalf. Luke had Yoda and “the force”. You too, have what Joseph Campbell called “the assistance of spiritual aids:” what I call muscles of the soul (e.g., humor,
patience, forgiveness, optimism, compassion, to name a few). Like the superheros with bulging muscles, we too have muscles. We just have to use them. Yes, we can look at other’s lives and wish we could change places at times, but that’s not how the rules are played. We are THE hero in our own story/journey and we must accept this challenge, returning home with our arms held high in a victorious salute.

Links, Books and Movies Worth Noting:
By no coincidence, this weekend I was also sent a Youtube link for a new documentary about Joseph Campbell’s concept of The Hero’s Journey (see below). Enjoy! And if you haven’t seen the PBS special with Bill Moyers and Joseph Campbell, please do yourself a favor and reintroduce yourself to The Power of Myth. Oh, and by the way, I liked Captain America!

www.findingjoethemovie.com

Quote for the Day:
"We save the world by being alive ourselves." —Joseph Campbell

Photo of the Day:
This photo was taken years ago at the Colorado Renaissance Festival, where children (of all ages) can work their imaginations to hone their skills on the hero’s journey. Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (7E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Relationships: Reflections or Projections?

2011-07-22T06:51:00.002-06:00

Freud was right about his concept of defense mechanisms! The sensitive ego has many strategies to minimize pain, not the least of which is to project one’s thoughts and feelings onto others; realizations that we find annoying about ourselves but would rather not admit. Interestingly, when people are caught “projecting negativity” they come back and say, “No, it’s just an observation!” Freud called that comment rationalization (another defense mechanism). Relationships provide an incredible mirror into our egos...if we let them. Finding fault with others, from noticing idiosyncrasies and irritating mannerisms to outright prejudice and racism offers insights into our own psyche, if we can truly be honest with ourselves. Interestingly, we tend to see these faults in others when we are ungrounded, less than centered and basically stressed. Do the images you see in your relationships offer a reflection of what’s really there, or a projection of what you have placed there? What lens do you choose to see the world through?

Stress Tip for the Day:
Stop and take another look at those you are involved with (e.g., friends, family co-workers, neighbors, etc.) Honestly ask yourself, what is it in that person that really bothers you and then ask yourself, how is it that you can identify this? The old adage, it takes one to know one may prevail. As noted many times before, meditation is one of the best ways to “domesticate the ego” and come back to that place of inner peace. Feeling grounded and centered one’s perspective tends to focus on the positive and the beauty in life. When the mind is calm, the mirror images offer the best reflection of what is really there, rather than a distortion of reality.

Links/Books/Movies Worth Noting:
It may have been a while since you took Psych 101, so perhaps a refresher is in order: Here are some links for more information on your biggest nemesis: The Ego.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_projection

http://changingminds.org/explanations/behaviors/coping/defense_mechanisms.htm

Quote for the Day:
“Vanity inclines us to find faults any where rather than in ourselves.” — Samuel Johnson

Photo for the Day:
While in Ireland on a photo expedition with a theme of Castles, I came across Kylemore Castle, now known as Kylemore Abby in County Mayo, Ireland. It was built by a man as a present for his wife, whom he adored. She only lived a few years after it was finished and over time it changed hands and is now a Benedictine monastery open to the public.

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Technology: Master or Servant?

2011-07-10T13:05:00.004-06:00

I can recall Walter Cronkite telling his TV audience decades ago that technology, in the years to come, was going to simplify peoples lives to the extent that Americans would have oodles of leisure time. So emphatic was he that it was predicted Americans might even become fat and lazy with so much leisure time. Well, he was partially right. But what he and so many others didn’t factor into the technology equation was the human ego with an unending desire to be needed. That which was supposed to be our servant (providing information, and so many other conveniences for the rich life) has become the master and we are technology’s servants, or so it seems. Experts now have a name for the syndrome known as slavery to technology: “Screen addiction.” And it is everywhere... and causing much stress for a great many people. One of the greatest casualties of screen addictions is youngsters, when parents cannot break away from the internet or cell phone long enough to be present with their children.

Stress Tip for The Day:
Is technology your slave or master? Do you show signs and behaviors of a screen addiction? Do you take your lap top, cell phone, Ipod and Blackberry on vacation with you? Do you use more than one cell phone at a time? As the expression goes, technology is neither bad nor good; it all depends on our behavior with its use that makes it so. Take some time examine your boundaries with your technology. Do you even have healthy boundaries with the technology you use? Take this week to refine your technology habits by pulling in the reins and letting technology server you rather than having you give your power away to it and having it become your master. For starters, know it's OK not to have your cell phone turned on all the time, nor feel the need to answer it, or check emails every five minutes of the day.

Quote for the Day:
“(Technology) is a new form of slavery, and distinguishable from the old simply by the fact that it is impersonal, that there is no human relationship between master and slave.” —Adapted from a quote of Leo Tolstoy

Photo of the Day:
While I could have placed a photo of someone addicted to their cell phone or blackberry, I chose to include a photo of an amazing sunrise this morning. Enjoy

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Defining Moments

2011-07-10T13:02:00.001-06:00

If you were asked to use one word or term to define yourself, you may give a look of frustration. Most of us would say this nearly impossible to do (e.g., father, artist, husband, brother, author, environmentalist, etc.). Yet as hard as this may seem, many people actually do define themselves with labels based on one defining moment in their lives: Rape victim. Cancer Survivor. Recovering Alcoholic. Refugee. Divorcee. Co-dependent. Labels may be helpful at the start of a situation but in time, they can become a gilded cage of sorts. Soon not only do we invest all of your energy into this identity or label, but others soon label us this way as well, making it hard to realize our full potential. Defining moments certainly help build character, if we allow them to do so.

Stress Tip for the Day:
How would you define yourself? Can you do it in one word or phrase? It this word or phrase an adjective or noun? Do you limit yourself to one word or phrase? Is there a label you use to define yourself? These are important questions to ask (and keep asking yourself) as you navigate the human journey. Labels can either be the gas pedal or brakes in how you drive your life. Do the labels you give yourself enhance your human potential, or detract from it. If you don’t like (or more likely, have outgrown the label you use, you can always create another. Pick something that will enhance your potential. Write it down on a sticky note and post it where you can see it, with the promise that as if becomes as is.

Links/Books/ Movies Worth Noting:
If you think you might like to read more about the concept of defining moments, here is a link by psychotherapist, Mel Schwartz… enjoy

http://www.melschwartz.com/DefiningMoments.html

Quote for the Day:
“Once a victim, twice a volunteer.” — Anonymous

Photo for the Day: I am back in Ireland at the present moment doing a photo expedition and scouting out some new places for a possible tour next year. This photo was taken at a stately manor (the Adare Manor) in Adare, Ireland and although it has nothing to do with today's blog, the artwork on this castle wall is nothing less than amazing. Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Trust the Universe!

2011-07-10T13:00:00.004-06:00

Free will or fate? This question rivals the “nature or nurture” argument regarding how much control do we actually have in our lives. With free will, we have all the control, and all the blame. With fate, we can claim no control, yet none of the responsibility. Perhaps the answer regarding free will or destiny is we share a little of both. As someone once explained it to me, the bus is scheduled to come down the street and stop. Whether you choose to hop on is entirely up to you. Regardless of the free will vs. destiny question, the issue of trust arises; trust in ourselves, or trust in something bigger than ourselves; more likely trust in both. A common phrase I hear among friends and colleagues (and one I use myself) is this: Trust the Universe! In essence, it’s a team effort (like an orchestra, and yes,,metaphorically speaking, there is a conductor who keeps tempo). Using the orchestra metaphor, it is up to us to tune our instruments, practice our skills, and keep up with everyone else on the team. Even those who play solos still play in tune with the rest of the orchestra. Trusting the universe also means knowing when to play the solo and when to be still. Being still is “code” for letting go, releasing, or detaching from the outcome of how you think things are supposed to be. Trusting the Universe (God) means having faith that, in the end, it will all work out as it should. In hindsight, we often recognize this wisdom.

Stress Tip for the Day:
Control issues (also known as control dramas) make up a large percentage of chronic stressors. How much trust do you place in yourself on your own human journey? Are you in alignment with the Universe or do you fight it? Take some time to do some soul searching on this issue. Learn to find that delicate balance between honoring yourself (and what it takes to get things done with your effort) and honoring that which is beyond you but very much a part of you. Links/Books/Movies Worth Noting:

Quote for the Day:
“When I’m trusting and being myself as fully as possible, everything in my life reflects this by falling into place easily, often miraculously.” — Anonymous

Photo for the Day:
Rainbows are often a symbol of trust. Yesterday we had several rainbows throughout the day and although I didn't have my camera with me (big mistake!), and as the expression goes, no rain, no rainbows.” This rainbow photo was taken in Kauai...Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Mediterranean Diet, Anyone?

2011-07-07T07:06:00.004-06:00

The first thing you notice when you walk into a European Market is how fresh the food is. Food items aren’t wrapped in plastic or tucked away in cardboard boxes behind frosted glass freezers. Olives float in fresh olive oil contained in aged wooden barrels. Huge blocks of cheese temp the eyes and nose. Fresh baked breads are stacked in piles high and the aroma awakens the senses. Veggies begged to be picked up and practically fondled. Europe has tried very hard to stop genetically modified foods into their boarders. Dairy products cannot have traces of antibiotics, hormones or petrochemical fertilizers. The foods just look fresher as you walk by each stall in the market, and for good reason, IT IS! There has been much talk about why Europeans, particularly those who live around the Mediterranean Sea, by and large, are healthy (and more so than Americans). Is it the foods they eat (fresh olives and olive oil in their cooking), red wines (bioflavinoids), fresh meats, or the abundance of fresh herbs (antioxidants) used in food preparation? Or is it the lifestyle (walking rather than driving everywhere), sitting down to a delicious meal and talking with friends and family rather than eating in front of the television (with all it’s food commercials enticing you to eat more?) The Mediterranean Diet is not so much about food, as it is a way of life.

Stress Tip for the Day:
How is the quality of your life? Do you wander through the market (other than a farmer’s market, Whole Foods is the closest thing most people will see to a Mediterranean Market display of food) letting your sense of smell influence your food selection? Are evening meals a celebration of life, or an errand to rush through? Is food preparation an art form or just something to microwave? Do you take evening strolls through your neighborhood to visit with neighbors or stay sequestered in your house after work each day? Do you take time to watch the sunsets and smell the flowers and herbs at dusk (the best time)? If you’re looking to improve the quality of your life, start with the freshness of the food you eat, but don’t stop there.

Links/Books/Movies Worth Noting:
Here are a few links with more information about THE diet:

http://www.mediterranean-food-recipes.com/
http://www.oldwayspt.org/mediterraneandiet

Quote for the Day:
“If more of us valued food and cheer and song above hoarded gold, it would be a merrier world.”- J.R.R. Tolkien

Photo for the Day:
One of ourfirst stops in Ireland was at the English Food Market in Cork. This photo, of the olive stand, was nothing less than mouth-watering (and the free samples were excellent).

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

The New Normal?

2011-07-05T06:34:00.004-06:00

Listening to the news as I do, I hear a phrase used with great regularity, “The New Normal.” The phrase begs two questions, What’s normal? and what’s changed since the old normal? Certainly, the influx of technology is considered part of the new normal. Extreme weather conditions are also considered the new normal. And sadly, the continual economic woes have become the new normal as well, particularly for those who cannot find a job. Normal, it is often said, is not necessarily healthy. These and other factors that make up the shifting sands of our society are creating the face of the “new normal.” Out with the old and in with the new means change, and change is often met with resistance (this is code for stress). One person who is questioning what is normal and with equal measure, trying to create a healthier new normal is David Wann.

Wann first gained national recognition with his acclaimed book, Affluenza, a critical look at consumerism in America. Wann suggests that we all take a new look at what it means to be successful. For so long success was (and still is) based on keeping up with the Jones, a never ending competition of consumerism, which is now coming back to bite us in the collective butt. This normal has with an unsustainable lifestyle saddled with stress (Wann notes that the US ranks 5th in the world in stress right below the people of Afghanistan and Haiti; not exactly a healthy new normal.) Wann also speaks to the issue of “time affluence” in essence, leisure time, something many people seem to have little of these days.

Stress Tip for the Day:
Do you measure your success by various social tangibles such as the size of your house, the make of your car, vacation destinations? If so you are in good (perhaps quite bad) company. Just as people are looking at what it means to be successful, they are also trying to determine how to
best measure happiness, and the two certainly go hand in hand. Many people have countless possessions, yet are anything but happy. Consider making a strategy today for your new normal, one that allows you to create a sustainable lifestyle. How would you rate your time affluence? Do you even have any? How does technology impede your time affluence? Awareness is the first step to making changes for your new normal.

Links/Books/Movies Worth Noting:
I highly recommend you take a look at David Wann’s link and perhaps consider reading his book, The New Normal.

http://www.davewann.com/publications/the-new-normal/

On a somewhat related note, over the holiday weekend I took refuge in a cool movie theater with a friend. The movie of choice was a pleasant surprise, BUCK. Living in the Rocky Mountains, I have ridden my share of horses, but this movie brought horse ridding to a whole new level. There are many great messages in the movie, about how to live your life, and I highly recommend it.

Quote for the Day:
“If you don’t like the culture you in, change the culture, be a culture of one.”
A paraphrased quote from the best selling book, Tuesdays With Morrie.

Photo for the Day:
Having just returned from our Spirit of Ireland Journey workshop, I thought Iwould share with you a photo I took while in the town of Doolin; a magical scene for sure.

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Mental Health Month... See you in July!

2011-05-31T22:03:00.006-06:00

Dear friends, fans and family,

Due to a heavy travel schedule this month (the Humor & Creativity conference in NY, the Unity Church Conference in Kansas City and the Spirit of Ireland Journey on the Emerald Isle) I have elected to put this blog on hiatus till I get home on June 30. I invite everyone to check out some back issues of Stressfully Speaking and I promise to have several new themes (and photographs) upon my return.

Here is wishing you well and thanks to all the people who have responded with such great feedback about this blog.

And...for those people interested, plans are underway to host this fall's 14 annual mountain retreat in Vail, Colorado at the renowned Sonnenalp Resort over the Columbus Day Weekend in October.

See you in July!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Stress, Addictions and Human Behavior

2011-05-27T07:42:00.008-06:00

Dear Blog fans... I am having many problems (but no stress) with posting the blog today and I don't know how to fix things... so below is what I was able to salvage...my apologies.

• Stress Tip For The Day: Are there good addictions? Some people see exercise as being a good addiction, but there are others who say that addictions of any kind are an attempt, consciously, more likely unconsciously, of avoidance. Still others suggest that addictions of any kind are an attempt to fill a spiritual vacuum. Regarding addictions, there is no separation between mind, body, spirit and emotions. Today it's time to take an honest look at yourself and your behaviors (all of them). If you are not sure about any potential addictions, try doing “without” for a few days and see where truth lies. If you are still not sure, ask a close friend. Often what we fail to see in ourselves is quite obvious to others. Finally, as the saying goes, everything is moderation.

• Links/Books Worth Noting: The topic of addictions is vast and no blog can begin to address it. But there are lots of books, links and resources of interest.. Below are a
few:

When Society Becomes and Addict, Anne Wilson Schaef

Codependent No More, Melodie Beattie

http://addictionrecoverybasics.com/

• Quote for the Day:

“Every form of addiction is bad, no matter whether it be a narcotic, alcohol, morphine or idealism.”— Carl G. Jung

• Photo of the Day:

Today’s photo is a beach scene on the island of Kauai. Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.
is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress
management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality.
He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand
Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward,
The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

To Tell The Truth!

2011-05-23T22:02:00.004-06:00

It’s fear that causes us to lie. Simply stated, the ego feels insecure about the course of our actions (often motivated by fear). So… to avoid embarrassment, we bend the truth, tell a white lie, or in some cases a whopper! Lies may see like a way to avoid the pain of embarrassment, but it doesn’t take long to see the foundations of trust, either in a friendship or working relationship crumble, then disintegrate! Once trust is violated, it’s hard to ever get that back. Ironically, it’s
stress that can cause one to lie, and it is stress that becomes compounded when one perpetuates the lie(s). The weight of a lie can be a heavy burden. Living with the incongruency of a falsehood tears at the heart. This, in turn, affects (taints) all other behavior. Many people have made the news with their whopper lies including Martha Stewart, Barry Bonds, Arnold Schwarzenegger. Things are not looking good for Lance Armstrong, either. But are we any different, really?
Taking the high road means to walk the path of integrity, domesticating the ego to be our bodyguard, not the CEO of our lives. Telling the truth is the noble course of action.

• Stress Tip For The Day:
Make a habit to observe your thoughts today (and every day). When you catch a fear-based lie passing through your lips (preferably before), stop, ponder and explain your fear then correct your communication and ask for forgiveness. Making peace with yourself at the earliest possible moment is one of the surest ways to return to inner peace.

• Links/Books Worth Noting:
I would like to recommend a really good book on forgiveness. It’s by Fred Luskin (who does research on forgiveness out of Stanford University), and it's called Forgive for Good.

• Quote for the Day:
“Tell the truth… it’s easier to remember!” — Mark Twain

• Photo of the Day:
It will be quite sad if we learn that Lance Armstrong fell under the spell of fear in an effort to win the Tour de France. Time will tell and I wish him well. This photo was taken in Colorado at one of our many cycling races. Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Feet Are Made for Walking

2011-05-19T06:49:00.005-06:00

We often take our feet for granted, but today, take time to thank your feet for all the support they have given you over the years. Decades ago, people spent far more time investing in quality footwear than they do today. Feet placed in shoes that don’t properly support the arch can
cause big problems (stress) to the structure of the entire body, primarily lower back and hip problems. Bunions and bone spurs are telltale signs that proper footwear has been ignored. Her is a good rule to remember: When fashion overrides function, it spells trouble for the feet. Without naming names, there are many shoe brands on the market today, which look cool and may even feel great initially, but offer no support to the feet and may cause serious structural damage down the road, not just to your feet, but your knees, hips and lower back. Indeed, your feet are made for walking and using them for this purpose is a great way to reduce stress as well.

• Stress Tip For The Day:
If you have lower back pain, or pain in the hip, knee or ankle joint, very likely it’s your feet that have been ignored. Please consider making an appointment to see a podiatrist (foot doctor). It might be that what you need are orthodics, followed by a good pair of shoes. Also… consider a good foot massage (reflexology) every now and then. 15-30 minutes on each foot is nothing less than heaven.

• Links/Books Worth Noting:
Once again, I would love to direct your attention to the Walking With Walgreens website which is promoting wellness through walking. There are many blog entries (including a few I was asked to contribute) for this website. Enjoy!

http://walk.walgreens.com/

• Quote for the Day:
“I only went out for a walk and finally concluded to stay out till sundown, for going out, I found, was really going in.” —John Muir

Photo of the Day: My Godmother, Pat O’Connor, (and her daughter and granddaughter) came out to visit me last week here in Colorado. We went up to Estes Park and Rocky Mountain National Park in the hopes to see some wildlife (which we did; a coyote, some deer and LOTS of elk). Somehow the girls all missed the memo about bringing good walking shoes so our tour of the park was primarily by car. All is all it was a great visit.

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. isan internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management,mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Stress and Stimulation Threshold

2011-05-16T06:48:00.005-06:00

One of the tenants of psychology is the concept called the Yerkes-Dodson Law or curve. With performance on the bottom and arousal on the left, the graph showed that arousal can and will increase performance to a point (and this point differs from person to person). Then performance decreases, sometimes dramatically. Arousal is another word for stress. It’s also another word for sensory stimulation. Similarly, performance can also be described as health. So another interpretation of the Yerkes-Dodson curve suggests that to a point, stress (sensory stimulation) is good, but past that point, all hell breaks loose. I first heard of this in my work with Olympic athletes, but the concept applies to anyone.

We are living is times of sensory bombardment. While many people call this the “information age,” others have nicked-named it the “marketing age,” where not blank space, real, cyber or otherwise, is left blank. Bits and bytes of information are flying everywhere. Signs of information overload include a shortened attention span, irritability, poor memory, even poor reaction time. Because there is no separation between mind and body, when these conditions persist, the next sign is burnout, followed by some aspect of health that becomes compromised. The key in psychological terms is this: Know your threshold and don’t go beyond it.

• Stress Tip For The Day:
What is your threshold for sensory stimulation? People under the age of 20 seem to have an unquenchable thirst for sensory stimulation. Conversely, the elderly do best when they stick to a routine, perhaps minimizing/filtering what comes in . Experts in the field of brain physiology with an eye on Alzheimer’s suggest that the brain needs new stimulation (e.g., a new language, Sudoku, cross word puzzles, etc.) Experts in the field of stress management remind us of the importance of meditation as a means to stabilize, if not master, this threshold of excitement. Balance is the key. Knowing your excitement threshold is like knowing your checking account balance. What is your threshold for sensory stimulation? What do you do to master it? If you don’t have a practice of meditation, it is never too late to get started with it.

• Links/Books Worth Noting:
If you haven’t read the Newsweek article on Information Overstimulation, here is the link:
http://www.newsweek.com/2011/02/27/i-can-t-think.html

• Quote for the Day:
“I finally get meditation. It’s like deleting old emails.” — 8th grader at Sunset Middle School, Longmont, CO.

• Photo of the Day:
Today's photo isn't a photo at all. It's a cartoon I had created for my textbook. Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Stress and Cancer

2011-05-10T09:45:00.006-06:00

Just the other day I read that in the year 1908, it was estimated that one out of every 8,000 people came down with cancer. Today, the stats indicate that one out of every four people will be diagnosed with cancer. What has changed in the past 100 years? Obviously, a lot. I often say that the association between stress and disease is quite high, some estimates suggest as much as 85%. This relationship is more than an association. There is a direct causal link. The stress hormone,
Cortisol that lingers too long in the blood is known to destroy white blood cells. White blood cells scan the DNA of all cancerous cells and destroy bad cells. If the count of white blood cells decreases, then the search and destroy mission is compromised. Simply stated a healthy immune system is key to the fight against cancer. It is well known that
the human body produces its own cancer cells, the immune system keeps things in check. It is also well known that forces outside the body (carcinogens) that enter the body, can cause huge problems. We have all heard of asbestos, and red-dye # 3, but there are countless others. Some cancers are now known to be created by viruses. Suffice to say the topic of cancer is far greater than a blog can do justice to, but the bottom line is the health of your immune system and all you do to maintain its integrity.

• Stress Tip For The Day:
Years ago the American Cancer Society stated that 60% of all cancers could be eliminated if people ate better. Your immune system will only be a strong as the nutrients that support it. It’s fair to say that, by and large, people ate a heck of a lot better 100 years ago than they do now, considering all the processed foods in the American diet. What do you do to support your immune system? Please consider eating fresh produce, organic products, free-range meats and fresh herbs and spices.

• Links/Books Worth Noting:
A great resource for healthy eating is the book, In Defense of Food, by Michael Pollan (author of the best selling book, The Omnivore’s Dilemma). I would also like to recommend everyone see the movie, Food Inc. How does stress affect cancer once diagnosed? This link will bring you
to an artice in the Scientific American that suggests stress increases the rate of cancer cells.

http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=does-stress-feed-cancer

• Quote for the Day:
“Almost no germ is unconditionally dangerous to man; its disease-producing ability depends upon the body's resistance.” —Dr. Hans Selye

• Photo of the Day:
In the hopes to promote some relaxation your way, I selected a photo that I took in Tahiti last summer; an overwater bungalow on the island of Bora Bora before sunset. Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress
management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

The Power of a Circle

2011-05-09T07:01:00.003-06:00

In the land renowned for its pyramids, I heard the other day that people in Egypt are gathering together in circles to discuss the formation of a new government. The circle is known the world over as a powerful divine symbol of wholeness, where all parts come together to form a whole, yet, the whole is always greater than the sum of the parts. Wisdom keepers and sages remind us of the power of the circle, an archetypal symbol of wholeness; the Tibetan mandala, the Native American medicine wheel, and the African drum, now used is so many cultures. Wisdom keepers also remind us of the four aspects of each circle (also known as the four gates): Spring, summer, autumn and winter. North, south, east and west. Centering, emptying, grounding and connecting. Joseph Campbell wove these four gates into the Hero’s journey (departure, initiation, assistance of spiritual aids, and the return home). M. Scott Peck (author of The Road Less Traveled) highlighted these four aspects in his template of spiritual growth: chaotic antisocial individual, institutionalized individual, skeptic individual and the mystic communal. Corporations also use the circle as a symbol of wholeness, if nothing more than to remind you at an unconscious level of their intent: Target, ATT, and Starbucks, just to name a few. The promise of wholeness is embedded within us. Should you ever forget the promise of wholeness, simply look into a mirror and see not one, but two circles; the iris of your eyes.

Stress Tip for the Day: Thomas Jefferson was so impressed with the power of the circle that he built his home, Monticello, around the shape of one. We even have a circle in the White House: The Oval office. Take a look around you and make note of all the places you see circles; dinner plates, clocks, wedding rings, coins, peace symbols, Christmas wreaths, CD’s and flower pots. The list is nearly endless. The promise of divine wholeness is all around. You just need to be aware of it.

Links, Books & Movies Worth Noting: If you haven’t seen Joseph Campbell’s interview with Bill Moyers: The Power of Myth (aired on PBS back in the late 80’s, but still as relevant today), it is surely worth a look.

Quote for the Day:

“Modern man is sick because he is not whole.” —Carl Jung

Photo for the Day:The sun and the moon often serve as symbols of wholeness. In honor of this concept, this photo of the full moon over Greenland’s town of Illulissat. Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

Eat Walk Meditate: Join Us For A Trip to Tuscany!

2011-05-05T17:11:00.002-06:00

Have you ever dreamed of basking under the rays of the Tuscan sun (if you have seen the movie staring Diane Lane, then the answer is YES!) Well...our trip to Ireland last year was so successful that I was asked (many times over) to put together a similar type trip to Tuscany this year. I found one of the best tour companies for small groups like ours and the dates are set: Sept 23-Oct 1^st. We begin in Florence for two nights, then drive to the Tuscany countryside for four nights and end our trip on the Mediterranean Sea near the UNESCO villages of Cinque Terra. It will be a most memorable trip. We have several spots left and would LOVE to have you join us: Great food, awesome sights, and great like-minded people who wish to recalibrate their lifestyles toward optimal health and wellness with great food, morning meditations and some light lectures on various aspects of health and wellbeing (we even have 10 CE’s through the American Holistic Nurses Association. A link below has all the information. So...start packing your bags…

Stress Tip for the Day: Please consider joining us for a most memorable trip to Tuscany, Italy this fall. $3,600 (land package). Call or email for more details.

Links, Books & Movies Worth Noting: This link has all the information you need for our trip:

http://www.brianlukeseaward.net/tuscany.html

Quote for the Day: “We were given: Two hands to hold. Two legs to walk. Two eyes to see. Two ears to listen. But why only one heart? Because the other was given to someone else. For us to find.” —Anonymous

Photo for the Day: A photo of the unique, memorable Tuscan countryside.

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

Stress & Diabetes

2011-05-05T15:42:00.005-06:00

There is an epidemic of Type II diabetes in our culture and perhaps by no coincidence, there is an epidemic of stress as well. While lifestyle habits (diet and the lack of exercise) are often cited as factors associated with Type II diabetes, one should not ignore the stress and disease connection. Under stress, the body prepares for fight or flight. In doing so, a score of hormones work in unison to provide the means for survival. This includes increasing blood sugar levels for energy (needed to flight or flee), even if you consciously override the stress response and sit all day in front of a computer. To be clear, stress doesn’t cause Type II diabetes (as far as we know), but it certainly compounds the issue. In Type II diabetes, the pancreas still makes insulin, but the cells throughout the body are not able to allow the insulin to transport blood sugar (glucose) past the cell wall for energy production in any sufficient quantity. As a result, glucose remains in the blood, resulting in elevated blood sugar levels. At the same time, cells send hunger messages to the brain suggesting they need energy, causing one to feel the need to eat. Ultimately, this leads to obesity.

Stress Tip for the Day: One of the first things I learned about cardiovascular exercise is that regular bouts of exercise promote a healthy homeostasis within the body (including blood sugar levels). The benefits of exercise are many, but first and foremost, regular exercise helps flush the stress hormones out of the body and returns the body back to physiological homeostasis. Even walking serves as a great example of exercise. Please consider walking each day as an investment in your health.

Links, Books & Movies Worth Noting: I, along with many others, have been asked to be a contributor to Walk With Walgreen’s website; a special program established to help motivate people to get outside and walk for health and fitness. Here is the link. Please consider checking this out.

http://walk.walgreens.com/

Quote for the Day: “Recent studies have revealed that children 8-10 years old are being diagnosed with Type II diabetes, high cholesterol, and high blood pressure at an alarming rate.” — Lee Haney

Photo for the Day: Today’s photo is of a person walking the beach in Hilton Head, SC, at sunrise… a great time to get out and walk.

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

The Art of Leadership

2011-05-04T10:02:00.002-06:00

Having just returned from Lansing, Michigan where I was invited to make a presentation at Michigan State University on the topic on The Call to Leadership, I felt inspired to share some insights from this presentation. The study of leadership is a study of the psychology of leadership; those qualities and aspects of personality that galvanize the human spirit to new heights of potential. There are some who say we are living in times of a crisis of leadership in all aspects of society. In such times people tend to look back in history and try to identify the best examples of leadership. Examples might include Nelson Mandela, Lewis and Clark, and one of my favorites, Ernest Shakleton. In this search for leadership, people also try to identify what are the best qualities of dynamic leadership including, but not limited to integrity, courage, honesty, inspiration, vision, and humility. The pitfalls of leadership are also examined and there tends to be no short list of qualities that are noticed. No matter how many shortcomings are listed, it is fair to say that they begin with stress in the form of arrogance coupled with fear” Simple stated, stress makes for bad leadership. Servant leadership is a term you might start listening for these days; a leader who works directly with people as opposed to remaining perched on the top. Leading from behind is also an expression you might hear more of. It speaks of unity building, consensus building and bringing people together rather than ruling by decree. Nelson Mandela referred to the bloodless transition out of Apartheid as leading from behind.

Stress Tip for the Day: How would you rate your leadership skills? Luminaries in many fields remind us that each of us is a leader, and at this time, this chapter of humanity, each of us needs to step up to the plate and demonstrate the epitome of dynamic leadership. This includes, but is not limited to, parenting skills, neighborhood meetings, environmental behaviors, driving, you name it.

Links, Books & Movies Worth Noting Many books have been written on the topic of leadership, but perhaps some of the best book are those autobiographies from those who have lead by example. For this reason I would like to recommend the following books:

South by Sir Ernest Shackleton

Reason for Hope by Jane Goodall

Long Walk to Freedom by Nelson Mandela

Quote for the Day: Normally I only have one quote, but this topic has no shortage of quotes from people who have been there: Enjoy!

“A leader should have an ability to see beyond the present problem”— Norman Vincent Peale

“Innovation distinguishes between a leader and a follower.” ~Steve Jobs

“In matters of style, swim with the current. In matters of principle, stand like a rock.” —Thomas. Jefferson

“The only real training for leadership is leadership.” —Antony Jay

“Example is not the main thing in influencing others, it is the only thing.”—Albert Schweitzer

“Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him power.” —Abraham Lincoln

“Leadership and learning are indispensable to each other.” –John Fitzgerald Kennedy

“The manager asks how and when; the leader asks what and why.” —Warren Bennis

Photo for the Day: A photo of several Canada geese (these guys take turns leading). Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

Of Diamonds and Snakes

2011-04-25T06:45:00.005-06:00

When I was a little boy, my mother used to read me and my sister
stories from a big illustrated book of the Brothers Grimm. One of the
stories (and illustrations) I recall vividly involved a story of two
sisters. The younger sister was extremely kind. Her kindness was
surpassed only by her physical beauty. Her elder sister was equally
pretty, but extremely jealous, which she voiced in harsh words and
vicious comments. One day, while their parents were away, the two
sisters were home alone when an old woman with a sack of clothes came by the house in desperate need of water. The elder sister uttered nasty words refusing to help her. Upon hearing this, the younger sister ran to her aid and attended to all her needs. When fully rested, the elderly traveler said to the young women, I have gifts for you both. To the kind sister, she said, “Whenever you speak words of kindness, diamond, pearls and gems shall fall from your lips. Your kindness shall never be forgotten.” As the pretty young woman offered words of thanks, two precious diamonds and a sparkling ruby fell from her mouth into her hands. Upon seeing this, the elder sister demanded to know what the old woman would give her. “Every time you speak ugly words, snakes and frogs shall crawl out of your mouth.” The elder sister yelled, “Get out you old, miserable hag.” As she uttered these words, just as the traveled had foretold, two snakes slithered out of her mouth and
dropped to the floor, rapping themselves around her ankles. In case you missed the moral to this story, let me state the obvious: Choose your words wisely. It is easy to speak kind words when you are feeling happy. It is far more difficult to be diplomatic in times of stress, which is all the more reason to do so, if for no other reason, so there is less mess to clean up afterward. As my mother used to say, “I wish you many diamonds today and every day.”

Stress Tip for the Day: As was once explained to me, words are like arrows. Once they leave your month, you can never take them back. Think before you speak. Make it a habit to speak words of kindness today. Let your words be gems of light that raise consciousness to all who might hear them.

Links, Books & Movies Worth Noting: This link was sent to me last week, and its beautiful message brought tears to my eyes. I hope you are equally moved.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hzgzim5m7oU

Quote for the Day: “Is it true, is it necessary, is it kind? These are three questions to ask yourself before you speak.” — Anne Morrow Lindbergh.

Photo for the Day: Today’s photo is an image I took last year while filming Earth Songs up in
Teton National Park. The Tetons are the crown jewel of the National Park system. Diamonds of a different kind. Enjoy.

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Earth Day 2011: The Stress of Plastic

2011-04-22T06:46:00.010-06:00

If you are a certain age, and you hear the word, “plastic,” you might just provide an immediate flashback to the movie The Graduate, where Dustin Hoffman is told that plastic IS the future. As a budding environmental activist I have often wondered about the ecological concerns of plastic, from grocery bags to water bottles to the leaching of chemicals (e.g., phthalates) from plastics into our food and water supply. Indeed, plastic is the future, but this future is not all that rosy. In fact, it’s quite problematic. As a fan of Public Radio, this week I happen to hear two interviews with Susan Freinkel, author of the new book, Plastic: A Toxic Love Story. Originally, it was her idea to go a whole day and not touch any plastic. Within minutes of trying, she realized this was impossible; Tooth brushes, toilet seats, door handles, cell phones, Ipads; the list is endless. Her book looks at the good, bad and ugly of our culture of plastic products. Perhaps one of her most interesting remarks is that polyethylene and other types of plastic (all by products of fossil fuels and natural gas) are not inert. The chemical composition interacts with all around it, including fluids such as water and foods when heated in microwaves and Teflon pans. These chemicals interfere with our hormones, and God only knows what else it affects or causes (e.g., cancers, Alzheimer’s, infertility, birth defects, etc.). Although it’s hard to escape the presence of plastics, it would be in everyone’s best interest to read up on the history of plastic over the past 50 years and see just what is known and unknown about this ubiquitous by-product. And... it goes without saying how much plastic (e.g., discarded water bottles) are trashing the planet!

• Stress Tip For The Day:
Refuse to be part of the “throw away culture! Bring your own bags when shopping. Reuse whenever possible (e.g., Baggies, etc.). Recycle all plastic whenever possible. Don’t cook with Teflon. Buy natural chewing gum (they use plastic in gum now!) Don’t buy plastic water bottles— Use stainless steel water bottles instead. It’s hard to find food in glass containers when so many are packaged in plastic, but items like salad dressing and tomato sauce come to mind. Try to be a little more conscientious of your use of plastic, particularly water bottles. Refuse to be part of the “throw away culture!

• Links/Books/Movies Worth Noting:
I haven’t read Susan Freinkel's book yet, but I intend to. If you are at all interested, I highly recommend you take a look at the interview transcripts from both Fresh Air and Amazon.

http://www.npr.org/2011/04/19/135245835/our-toxic-love-hate-relationship-with-plastics

http://www.amazon.com/Plastic-Toxic-Story-Susan-Freinkel/dp/054715240X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1303441147&sr=1-1

• Quote for the Day:
“Modern technology owes ecology an apology.” ~Alan M. Eddison

“Don't blow it—good planets are hard to find.” ~Quoted in Time

• Photo of the Day:
To honor Earth Day, I culled through my collection of photos to find THE image that spoke to my heart about Earth’s beauty today. This photo begged to be considered and I obliged. Happy Earth Day!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

The Fear of Flying: Airport Stress

2011-04-18T07:35:00.007-06:00

The words stress and change are used synonymously these days, and anyone who has had a flight delayed several times in as many hours, only to learn it’s cancelled at the end of the day knows all too well what airport stress is. Change within the airline industry can be stressful for everyone. While we all know about the extra charges for checked luggage, gone are the days of empty seats, walk in stand-by seats and polite customer service. Weather delays, mechanical difficulties, delayed flights, security breaches, and $5 bottles of water on sale past TSA security are the norm. Simply stated, tension runs high with this most “convenient” way to travel. To quote a stressed passenger last night, “The skies are not as friendly as advertised.” As I write this, I am sitting in Newark’s Airport having gone through all of the above changes. When faced with change such as airport and airline stress, one has to realize that practically everything is out of your control—save your attitude. Losing one’s temper doesn’t solve anything, and in fact, will make things worse in a place where everyone is on edge to begin with. Adaptation is the key; learning to adapt to the change that we are confronted with is essential. Creative problem solving comes in handing too, as does a sense of humor. It doesn’t hurt to pray either!

• Stress Tip For The Day: When flying to a distant city, have on hand the airline’s reservation number. This can prevent waiting in extremely longs lines at the customer service center. Taking the first flight out in the morning also ensures less hassle later in the day. It’s also a good idea to have on hand the name and phone number of a respectable hotel should you end up spending the night. (I got the last room at a hotel who’s name will go unmentioned, but it was startling to see the reception desk and hotel manager behind two inches of Plexiglas). Boarded up adjacent buildings, police sirens, woman walking in stiletto heals and spandex and an a occasional gunshot were not uncommon either (no exaggeration, it was a rough night). With the epidemic of bed bugs nationwide, good advice to follow is this: Place your luggage in the bathtub while sleeping to avoid bringing home any unwanted guests.

• Links/Books/Movies Worth Noting:Many movies come to mind for some comic relief (which will surly come in handy), but Planes, Trains and Automobiles is a good start. Enjoy!

• Quote for the Day:“Everything can be taken from a man or a woman but one thing: the last of human freedoms to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.” —Victor Frankl

• Photo of the Day:A peaceful sight at Newark’s gate A-12, quite calm… hours after all the people who thought they were boarding a flight here learned their gate had changed to another terminal.

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water in Russian

2011-04-13T13:13:00.003-06:00

Today I received my copy of Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water... in Russian. I can recall growing up as a kid learning that people in Russia weren't allowed to believe in God. Spirituality went underground. The KGB sent many people to Siberian gulags or worse, put them to death. Who would have ever thought a book like mine might be translated in Russian? I never did. I just had to share the excitement (and if anyone knows what the actual translation of the title is, please let me know.) Thanks!

Water! The Stress Associated With Water

2011-04-13T07:12:00.006-06:00

An issue has been surfacing in the news lately, and the issue is water. Something that seems so natural and free is becoming rapidly less so. So significant is this stressor, that National Geographic dedicated an entire issue to the topic of water and our thirsty world (April, 2010). Newsweek Magazine also ran a cover story (October 2010) depicting corporate America’s desperate need for this valuable resource, calling water “The New Oil.” Here are some facts that will impact you now and the years to come:

• 97.5% of the earth’s water is salty, with only 2.5% of earth’s water considered fresh. 2/3’s of all fresh water is frozen

• Many US regions (e.g., Texas, Arizona, California) are draining underground aquifers quicker than they can be naturally restored.

• The demand for water increases with population, but the amount of water remains constant. Many fresh water streams contain hormones and antibiotics from prescription drugs flushed down toilets and agricultural run-off (petrochemical fertilizers, etc.) which is then consumed by the local citizens unknowingly.

• Americans use approximately 100 gallons of water at home each day (compared to 5 gallons/day in developing nations).

• It takes 2,500 gallons of water to make 1 pound of hamburger and 1,800 gallons to grow enough cotton for a pair of blue jeans.

• 1500 is the number of plastic water bottles consumed in 1 second in the US! Americans spent more money in 2010 on bottled water than on Ipods or movie tickets: $15 Billion.

• Clean water is a huge issue in China, so much so they tried (and failed) to license and export fresh water from the Great Lake Region in US and Canada. The Three-River Gorges reservoir in central China will tilt the earth’s axis by nearly an inch.

Stress Tip for the Day:

We, in America, have it pretty good for the most part, when compared to other parts of the world. Over half the world’s population does not have direct access to clean water (they have to walk miles to get it). Perhaps one of the first things you can do is stop buying water in plastic bottles, especially water transported from around the world, like Fiji. Please consider using a stainless steel water bottle to transport with you. The first step to simply to be more conscious about how you use this valuable and essential natural resource.

Links/Books/Movies Worth Noting:

NPR’s Fresh Air ran a program this week based on a new book called The Big Thirst. Here is the link, as well as some other links of interest:

http://www.npr.org/2011/04/11/135241362/the-worldwide-thirst-for-clean-drinking-water

http://www.fastcompany.com/magazine/117/features-message-in-a-bottle.html

http://www.dec.ny.gov/docs/materials_minerals_pdf/waterbottles.pdf

Quote for the Day:

“There is no question that clean, affordable drinking water is essential to the health of our global community. But bottled water is not the answer in the developed world, nor does it solve problems for the 1.1 billion people who lack a secure water supply.” — Emily Arnold

Photo for the Day:

Today’s photo was taken in the Patagonia region of Chile where glaciers are melting rapidly. The Chilean Andes are said to hold vast amounts of fresh water, locked up in glaciers.

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

Let It Go: The Rules of Detachment

2011-04-11T07:05:00.003-06:00

The hardest thing the ego must learn to do is to “let go,” specifically to let go of control. The ego often lives by the motto, “If some is good, more has got to be better.” Control comes in the way of emotional attachment, and its grip is very strong. We hang on to thoughts and feelings about ourselves, others, or a host of situations, well beyond the need to hang on. Ironically, in the process of emotional attachment, we give our power away. To paraphrase an old adage, “It takes strength to hang on, but it takes greater strength to let go.” There are many words and expressions to let go of emotional attachment: Cleanse, release, detach, move on, grieve, and perhaps the most important, forgiveness. The rules of letting go begin with examining your conscience to see what unresolved feelings of anger and fear still persist. Once recognized, let them go, and this may take several efforts. Like a little kid running down the street after a runaway nickel, the ego will release and then change its mind, grabbing for anything to hold on to. Detachment is a skill. With practice will serve you in stressful times. There are many ways to domesticate the ego. Detachment is one of the most important rules in this process.

Stress Tip for the Day

Comb through you mind to reflect on any issues, concerns, problems or situations where your ego has a hard time letting go. Remember, releasing/ cleansing isn’t a sign of resignation or apathy. It is a step toward liberation.

Links/Books/Movies Worth Noting:

Here are a few more links on the topic:

http://drbenkim.com/detaching-from-ego.htm

http://www.brianjohnpiccolo.com/articles/Detachment-Ego-and-Co-Creation.htm

Quote for the Day:

“He who would be serene and pure needs but one thing, detachment.” —Meister Eckhart

“ To be consistently effective, you must put a certain distance between yourself and what happens to you on the golf course. This is not indifference, it's detachment.” — Sam Snead

Photo for the Day:

In combing through my mind for visual ideas for this blog entry, it didn’t take long to realize that this photo won hands down. It’s quite common to see hot air balloons in the morning skies here in Colorado. And, as we all know, a balloon cannot leave the ground without detachment.

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

Don’t Worry, Be Happy!

2011-04-07T11:19:00.005-06:00

There is a high correlation between simplicity and happiness. The more things that clutter your mind, the greater the chance of feeling overwhelmed. The more responsibilities and possessions you carry, the greater the likelihood to obsess and fret about them. Balance is the key. Experts in the new field of positive psychology are beginning to examine exactly what makes a person happy. While there are many factors, simplicity in one’s life plays a large role in being happy. As a consumeristic 24/7, on demand society with a great standard of living (the envy of the rest of the world), by and large Americans don’t appear to be very happy. Perhaps that is because happiness isn’t a destination or final goal, it’s an attitude; a perception, that you carry in your heart. If there is a saboteur of happiness, most likely it’s the ego. Feelings of inadequacy, desires for more things, and comparisons to others can derail any attempts for locking in the perception of happiness. One key to happiness (and there are many) is to domesticate the ego.

Stress Tip for the Day:

How can one best adopt an attitude of happiness? You can start by simply appreciating all the things you have in your life. Make a list of ten things you are grateful of in your life. Gratitude is considered to be a cornerstone of happiness. As a side note, I met a friend at the post office the other day who told me she met a man who introduced himself as H.H (name goes here). She thought to herself, H. H, does this mean His Holiness? He doesn’t look Tibetan. Seeing the quizzical look, he explained that H.H means, His Happiness. Now here is somebody who knows
how to be happy.

Links/Books/Movies Worth Noting:

One catalyst for people to experience happiness is to listen to enjoyable music. Musical tastes vary considerably from person to person, but as a corollary to the stress tip of the day, please consider compiling a new list of your favorite songs that will put a smile of on your face. Also … tonight (April 7th), Eric Whitacre’s virtual chorus 2.0 will be available on Youtube (no link as of yet). Check it out.

Quote for the Day:
“Ultimately, happiness is your capacity to feel and express love and compassion.” —The Dalai Lama.

Photo for the Day:

I met this woman in Cusco, Peru on a sunny, hot afternoon. From what I could tell, she has had a hard life, but she never let on. Here she sits enjoying an ice cream cone, reminding me that happiness is found in the simplest of things.

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress
management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

The Need for A Community of Friends

2011-04-03T22:06:00.015-06:00

Perhaps the most impressive study underscoring the importance of
quality friendships and the need for a strong support group was
conducted by Dr. David Spiegel who, years ago, studied the survival
rate of women with breast cancer. Simply stated, those who had a
strong, supportive circle of friends outlived (by many years) those in
social isolation. By our vary nature, humans are social beings. No man
(or woman), as the expression goes, is an island. As science begins to
explore the relationship of energy, entrainment, emotions, thought and the human condition, we are beginning to see that the vitality of human life includes a healthy connection to others. We can contribute to this vitality by forming communities of friends who, through their inspiration and compassion, add to this vitality.

In many ways the world has become quite fragmented, but this is only a perception. In other ways, the world has never been more connected, primarily through technology (e.g., Skype, Facebook, Twitter, etc.) But support groups don’t just happen. There is always a catalyst that brings like-minded people together, whatever the means. Recognizing this catalyst is extremely important, either in knowing how to access it, or perhaps being the catalyst yourself. The wisdom keepers remind us that life is not about the accumulation of money or power, but the expression of love to our fellow human, particularly in times of stress. This, after all, is what quality friendships are all about.

Stress Tip for the Day:
Take stock of your circle of friends this week. Who resides in your
innermost circle? Who constitutes supporting members of your personal community of friends? Make a plan to reconnect with your support group this week. Make an effort to move beyond the social networking outlets to have face-to-face contact. Organize a pot-luck dinner. Schedule a
tea party. Plan a weekend BBQ. Bake a lasagna for a neighbor in need or crisis. By giving support to others we learn that we benefit greatly ourselves in ways untold.

Links/Books/ Movies Worth Noting:
Over the weekend, I received a few video links that were just too special not to share. These first two links speak to the nature of connection, support groups and the need/desire for real social interaction. I think you will really enjoy them. I did. The third link contains more information about David Spiegel’s landmark study.

http://www.youtube.com/watch_popup?v=hN8CKwdosjE

http://www.ted.com/talks/eric_whitacre_a_virtual_choir_2_000_voices_strong.html

http://whyfiles.org/039emotion/spiegel1.html

Quote for the Day:
“We are one big family of people, trying to make our way through the unfolding puzzle of life. We are all connected to one another in the heart. Connecting with the ultimate source of love is possible through discovering the hidden power in your heart.” — Sara Paddison

Photo for the Day:
Over the weekend I invited about 50+ friends from my local support group to come over for a potluck dinner and Celtic music concert. It was a packed house of great people, delicious food and incredible music. Special thanks to Jessie Burns, Adam Agee and Jon Sousa who, as
the catalyst for the evening, perform an encore to an incredible and most memorable event. In the words of Adam, “to come together and have joyful music and community was tonic for the soul in these turbulent times.” My deepest gratitude to everyone!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the
author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward,The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

The Importance of Lipids

2011-03-31T07:24:00.006-06:00

Can we talk about fats for a moment? With all the news about obesity
these days, fats have gotten a bad reputation. Here are some facts to
consider: Nearly every cell needs fat to help constitute the cell membrane (the external barrier that helps keep what needs to stay inside the cell and prevent things from getting inside that don’t belong.) Brain cells need fat as well. So do many hormones
(particularly the sex hormones, known collectively as the sterols, from
which cholesterol is used). Lipids are fats that are liquid at room
temperature. Some fats are essential in that your body cannot make them (it can make cholesterol and sunlight on exposed skin helps this process). The two essential lipids are Omega 3’s and Omega 6’s. Processed foods are very high in Omega 6’s (sunflower, safflower, canola oils). The American Diet is typically low in Omega 3’s (which is why you hear so much about this these days). Good sources of Omega 3’s are cold water fish, such as salmon, and flax seed oil. Oil’s can go rancid when exposed to light and heat (which is why it’s a good reason to store most oils in the fridge). Rancid oils can act like free radicals and destroy cell membranes (very bad for the health of the cell).

Stress Tip for the Day:
March is celebrated as Nutrition Month, so let's go out in style. Consider incorporating healthy oils (lipids) into your diet on a regular basis. It’s also a good idea to avoid transfats (hydrogenated oils). They may be good to promote long shelf life for boxed food in the grocery store, but even bacteria won’t go near transfats—and neither should we. Transfats act like free radicals, and speculation suggests an association between transfats and cancer and heart disease. When purchasing oils for cooking, find oils that can withstand high heat (it should indicate this on the back label). And remember, eggs are good for your sex life.

Links/Books/ Movies Worth Noting:
For further reading, here are some good links to check out:

http://www.learnyourlipids.com/learn.php
http://www.forgottenfat.com/tips.php

Quote for the Day:
“Cholesterol is only one of the important lipids in the body and is not the only factor associated with heart disease. There are two other important lipids in the body: triglycerides, which provide energy to cells, and phospholipids, which are used in the structure of cell walls and in the insulating sheath that surrounds nerve fibers. All these lipids are made up of basic building blocks called fatty acids.” - Ronald L. Hoffman, M.D.

Photo for the Day:
Oh yeah...There is one more purpose of fat in the body. It serves as a protection to various organs, like the heart. And of course, keeps us warm when cold. These La Jolla Seals would know about cold. Enjoy!

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.

Boosting Your Immune System

2011-03-28T07:32:00.008-06:00

Reports from various sources suggest that over half of Americans are
walking around with a suppressed immune system. A suppressed immune system does more than make you a target for colds and the flue; it sets the state for various forms of cancer as well. Experts suggest, based on many findings, that there are three primary reasons for a suppressed
immune system: 1) Stress, 2) Poor sleep habits (insomnia) and 3) Poor
dietary habits). This sounds like the entire American population!
Research now proves, without a doubt, that the stress hormone, Cortisol, destroys white blood cells, after it does all it’s other
“fight or flight” responsibilities (increasing blood sugars and blood lipids for energy production). Stress is also a precursor for insomnia (over half of the insomnia cases report chronic stress as the reason for repeated poor sleep habits). One of the primary purposes of sleep is restoration. The inability to “restore” the body during 7-8 hours of sleep certainly affects all aspects of physiology including the maintaining the integrity of the immune system. Finally, the immune system requires the constant replenishment of vitamins and minerals (and proteins) to do its job effectively. Fast foods, processed foods,
junk foods and comfort foods are called “empty calories” because, by and large, they contain few, if any, vitamins and minerals. Some findings even suggest that sugar destroys white blood cells as well. It's time to honor your immune system by treating it better.

Stress Tip for the Day:
At the start of this week, consider pulling in the reins on some less than desirable behaviors. Gravitate toward healthy foods, get in the habit of going to bed (without any tech gadgets) to ensure 7-8 hours, and now that spring is officially here, get outside for some daily exercise.
Your immune system will thank you.

Links/Books/ Movies Worth Noting:
There are many books to recommend for today’s blog theme, but the book The Omnivore’s Dilemma by Michael Pollan is a great place to start. I also would recommend his sequel, In Defense of Food. Michael was also interviewed for the documentary, Food, Inc., which I also highly recommend.

Quote for the Day:
“Eat at least one meal a day for your immune system.” — Brian Luke Seaward

Photo for the Day:
Today’s photo is a picture taken of Norman Island, part of the British Virgin
Island’s (the inspiration for Robert Louis Stevenson’s novel, Treasure Island). Enjoy…. and Relax.

Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D. is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of stress management, mind-body-spirit healing and stress and human spirituality. He is the author of over 10 books including the bestsellers, Stand Like Mountain, Flow Like Water, Stressed Is Desserts Spelled Backward, The Art of Calm, Quiet Mind, Fearless Heart and Managing Stress (6E). He can be reached through his website:www.brianlukeseaward.net

© Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.